Resistance Creates Unhappiness

86The mind can create unhappiness through the thoughts it thinks. If you didn’t think, you wouldn’t have unhappiness because you wouldn’t be thinking of those things that cause you to feel unhappy. Thoughts are what you think, not who you are. Resistance of what is, is your mind gone crazy because you are constantly thinking outside the present moment.

This unhappiness is initiated through your resistance to what you don’t want, so essentially you are fighting against an unwanted life experience. You think fighting against it will make it go away but it does just the opposite. Your resistance to that which you do not want will actually make it worse because resistance only creates negativity. If you were experiencing something you did want, there would be no resistance and therefore no negativity.

Resistance not only closes you off from the natural flow of life, but it causes you to be out of tune with your Inner Life, who you really are. In time, you will sense an imbalance in your physical, mental and spiritual health. The greater your resistance, the greater your imbalance, and therefore the greater your unhappiness.

77Resistance of the unwanted, being closed off from the natural flow of life, is the same as living outside the present moment. Many people fear and avoid the present moment because they believe all those unwanted things are in the present moment, but I assure you they are not. Living in the present moment does not magnify, intensify or multiply the unwanted, it dissolves it completely. Never will you find unhappiness in the present moment.

Why won’t you find unhappiness in the present moment? Unhappiness is only associated with your outer life, your past and/or your future. When you focus yourself into the present moment, allowing yourself to feel and live the fullness of who you really are, the things causing you to feel unhappy do not exist because they are not a part of your present moment experience. They are not a part of who you really are; of your Inner Life. Everything that happens, happens Now. Once it has happened it is no longer “active” unless you keep it active.

75I am certainly not saying you won’t ever experience sadness to some degree, but it won’t control you or your life. There will always be unwanted situations that will need your attention. This is a normal and unavoidable part of life. When the time comes to deal with it, do it mindfully and be fully present in doing so. This will keep you away from unnecessary worry, stress, anxiety and emotional pain. If there is something you need to come to terms with, particularly something that is unexpected ~ accept it, embrace it, and keep moving forward. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in something that is no longer a part of your true life experience. Playing it over and over again in your mind keeps you continually going through it. This in itself prolongs your emotional pain and significantly slows down the natural flow of your life because you are then fighting against what is.

In reality, the pain you are suffering from being unhappy is just an illusion created by the mind. It is not “real” because pain and unhappiness are not a part of who you really are. They don’t exist in your Inner life and they don’t exist in the present moment. Your Inner Life and the Present Moment are one in the same. They are states of Being, not a state of mind. However, because many of us allow our minds to control our emotions and our lives, we live with being unhappy.

64Accepting life and your life situation as it is does not mean staying where you are. It means accepting what is, as it is, in this moment. It means to stop fighting against what it is you don’t like or don’t want and go with the natural flow of what life is offering you. If you are not happy with what is, take the necessary steps to change it. The natural flow of life will always consist of contrast; those things we don’t want or like, but the amount of time we spend in the contrast is entirely up to us.

Living in the present moment and without resistance means to be in control of your mind. Pay attention to what you are thinking and where those thoughts take you. Look out for triggers that may send you leaping into the past or future. The moment a negative emotion arises you know your mind is trying to take you out of the Now. The easiest way to re-focus is to become aware of where you are right now through Inner Life breathing (Inner Life Breathing – Live, Love & Breathe Life). Pull yourself back into your body so to speak, leaving the mind behind. The more you empty your mind, the more peace, joy, well-being and love will become your life experience.

Letting go of what was or what could be for what is will free you completely. It allows you to stay focused in the present moment releasing you from the bonds of any moment that is not this moment. This in itself will relieve your emotional pain, resistance and unhappiness.

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

What Are Your Beliefs Creating?

41Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it.  Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many.  Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.  Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations.  But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, than accept it and live up to it. – Buddhist Teachings

Has it ever crossed your mind that the life you are living is because of your own personal beliefs?  Have you wondered why you lack self-esteem?  How many times have you stopped yourself from doing something because you did not believe you could do it?  Do you find yourself falling in line with everyone else’s beliefs instead of living in line with your own?  The beliefs we hold about ourselves and about life will be a major factor in how our lives unfold.  Whatever you believe will be true because you believe it.  A belief is only a thought that you keep thinking.  If you want to change your life, change your beliefs.

04From the moment we are born, we are taught the beliefs of other people through our parents, schoolteachers, and/or religious leaders.  We also carry beliefs about ourselves from the words that are offered to us from other people.  If you were told by someone you trust and love that you are stupid, you are more than likely going to carry that belief about yourself throughout your life.  Unfortunately, a belief that causes negative emotion will create a negative response from us.  We will feel insecure and lack confidence.  It is not until that belief is replaced with a positive one that we will be able to overcome the negative feelings.

If your beliefs cause you to think that this is a terrible world we live in, full of violence and destruction, the power of the words you offer through your belief will generate the same kind of life.  Regardless of whether or not you like what you believe, you will constantly be creating an unending cycle of unwanted manifestations.

A belief is a series of words that will elicit a negative or positive manifestation.  A word is not just a sound or written symbol.  Words are powerful because when spoken, written, or thought, they create an emotion.  It is the energy of your emotion that will create the events in your life.  When you think you are stupid, you are going to feel a negative emotion.  That negative emotion will send out a vibration that attracts more things that will feed your feeling of being stupid.  Our words can be used as a very powerful tool to getting what we want.  However, the word does have two sides.  Words can create a peaceful, healthy, and abundant life, or words can create constant havoc and chaos.  Which would you prefer?

02Think of your words and your beliefs as magic potions.  They will give you freedom and peace of mind or they will imprison you in hell.  One word, one belief, which is said and/or offered, can change a person’s life forever.  The most dramatic example I can give of this is of Hitler.  It was through his word and beliefs that created one of the most unforgettable acts of violence and cruelty that humanity ever experienced.

We must remember that it is not only the words that are said to us that can change our lives, but it is also the words that are said by us that can change our lives and the lives of others.  If you hold the belief that you are stupid, you may offer the same words to someone else in an effort to make yourself feel better.  Not only do you continue to carry negative emotion, but now someone else will too.  However, everyone has a choice as to whether or not to believe what is being said.

PotionThe easiest way to know what is “true” is by how you feel when words or beliefs are offered to you.  If you are told you are stupid and it causes sadness, anger, or pain, then you know you are not in alignment with who you really are.  If you watch the violence and destruction around the world and it makes you uncomfortable, sad, or angered, you know you are taking on a belief that is not true to who you really are.  Who you really are, your “inner-being” is pure positive energy, and it offers nothing but unconditional love.  If everyone in the world would take his or her focus off the violence and destruction, it would be gone.  It is because of the vibration we keep offering that keeps creating the negative manifestations in our lives and in our worlds.

Whenever you believe something that does not make you feel good, all you have to do is change your belief.  How do you change your belief?  You change the words you are offering.  Instead of thinking or saying, “I am stupid” say “I am grateful for all my knowledge.”  Instead of thinking or saying, “this world is a horrible place to live” say, “I am grateful for all the beauty in this world.”  Then focus on the positive aspects of your new belief!  Draw on your own strengths and remind yourself of all the things you did that made you feel smart.  Get on the internet and look through photographs, read articles about all the beautiful and peaceful places around the world.  Take a walk in your own neighborhood and instead of looking at what you do not like, look at what you do like.  Find gratitude in the fact that you are alive and breathing, that you are a part of this wonderful world that we live in.  We may not be able to change the world, or what was said, but we can ALWAYS change our beliefs!

Once you get in the habit of changing negative beliefs and words to positive ones, there will be a shift in your vibration and your life will begin to become more joyous, fulfilling, and abundant!

Love & Light,



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The Other Kind of Regret

42In yesterday’s post ~ Regret Does Serve A Higher Purpose ~ I spoke of regret in terms of saying or doing something you did not want to and then feeling regret for it.  This post is about the other kind of regret.

The other kind of regret is when you regret not doing or saying something you did want to.  And by this I mean something positive.  Like for instance, when you are out and about and something inside you says “go here, go there”, “talk to him, talk to her”…..and you don’t!  You know, the kind of regret where you feel like kicking yourself for not doing it!  We have all done it and we have all felt it,  but the question is, why don’t we follow that little voice in our head?

There is only one answer to this question and that is fear.  At the exact moment when your Inner Life is guiding you, you do the one thing you shouldn’t do:  THINK!  As soon as those thoughts of doubt or question come crawling into your mind, you react in fear.  You fear you will make the “wrong” choice or decision, but little did you know there is never a wrong choice or decision.  Little did you know your Inner Life; that which you really are, will never guide you in the “wrong” direction.  Every “nudge” you have had (and will have) and did not follow, came from the same place inside you.  It is the place inside you that can be trusted without question.

33If you find yourself swimming in a pool of regret time after time, you are going against who you really are.  Even if things don’t turn out the way you initially thought you wanted them to, how can you regret the experience at all?  How can you regret being who you really are?  How can you regret being you?  You can’t, and that is why whenever you follow the all-knowing little voice in your head, it will always be a win-win experience.

So, to make it easy on yourself and to be happier, just allow every experience to be what it is – an experience – then, there will never be regret.

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach


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