Put It In the Jar

59About 4 years ago I was helping a 5-year-old boy who was living a difficult life.  Not only was he was learning the negative beliefs and behaviors of his parents who were both addicts and verbally abusive, but he was living with a lot of anger.

During a short period of time I became his friend, confidant, parent, punching bag, companion and teacher.  We went through many painful times together but we also had some very joyful times.

I remembered something he and I did that helped to relieve his anger and the things that bothered him.  It started with an art class.  He and I would do one form of art on a weekly basis.  On this particular day he came over so we could decorate some jars together which we did.  After we were done we sat back and admired our work.  He then turned to me and asked what we were going to put in them.  Honestly, I had no clue.  So I asked him what he would like to put in them and after a few minutes he turned to me with a saddened face and said “bad stuff, I want to put bad stuff in them”.  I knew in my heart what he was talking about but I still asked a few questions. 

After some time we came up with the idea to write down on a piece of paper what was bothering us, so we did.  I of course had to help him with his but it still had the same effect.  When we were done, we folded it up and put it in our jar.  I told him that once it goes in the jar it can no longer hurt, anger or upset us.  He eagerly agreed. 

57I had no clue how any of this would turn out, but in the end the jar made a world of difference.  As much as it pained my heart to hear the “bad stuff” I knew it was helping.  He would come over distraught, emotional and crying, but after we wrote the bad stuff down and put it in the jar, he was relieved ~ just like that.  Not only could I see it in his face and body but I could also feel it in his energy.  His belief in the jar was one to be admired.  I soon began filling my jar and lo n’ behold it really did work!  Whatever I put in the jar, stayed in the jar.

All you have to do is grab a jar, bottle or box, keep a small note pad and pen beside it and whenever you find yourself stressed, worried or angry about something or at someone, jot it down and put it in the jar with the KNOWING that once it is in the jar it can no longer have an effect on you.  It is there if you want it, but for the time being just put it in the jar and forget about it.

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

You’re Okay

04You are okay and your life is okay.  Do not fret or worry for the Universe is working with you, not against you.  Relax in the calmness you so willingly find within.  You are one with who you really are; with God; with Source; with the great Universe.  Your energy flows eagerly outward embracing all that you are and all that you desire.  Your dreams are right there.  I know you can feel them….can you feel them?  

Now, close your eyes and just breathe.  Breathe in all that you deserve ~ breathe in abundance, joy, happiness, hope, faith and love.  And now, breathe out what is not truly a part of who you really are.  Breathe out the stress, worry, dis-ease, frustration, and fear. 

With every step you take, with every breath you breathe, allow yourself to be free.  Break free from the chains that bind you; the chains that keep you locked up in the confines of your own mind.  There is not one thing to be afraid of. 

You may not always feel me, but I am always with you.  I will never leave your side and I will never hurt or disappoint you.  I will love you all-ways and unconditionally.  All I need is for you to trust me.  Can you trust me?  I ask that you give yourself completely and wholly to me for I am anxious to take this journey with you!  Please….trust ME, for I AM who YOU seek – I am YOU! 

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach


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Life’s Little Hiccups

48From time to time, life will hand you some unexpected hiccups.  More than likely it will be something unplanned or unwanted.  Instead of allowing this little hiccup to get in the way of your happiness, embrace it for what it is.  For what it is, is all that it is.  In most cases, the scenario could be much worse so take a minute to find gratitude for it being no more than what it was. 

Too many of us allow “negative” things to stress us out or control how we feel, but it is important to remember that you are the one who has control over how you feel.  Whatever the situation is, deal with it and move on.  There is no need to harbor negative energy in regards to it.  There is also no reason to stop being happy or feeling good.  Just because something “bad” happens to you does not mean you have to change who you truly are.

The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama

Choosing Gratitude: Your Journey to Joy by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Stress Free Living by Elisabeth Wilson

Being able to accept life’s unexpected hiccups with a positive attitude will bring you power.  You will be able to go on with life without allowing it to “take you down”.  So many people get caught up in these little hiccups that before they know it, their lives are spinning out of control like a tornado!  Allowing yourself to get upset or distraught is not going to change what happened so why waste all your good energy?  Instead, do what you have to do, go on with life and above all else, just be happy!

Love & Light,


** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I offer e-coaching (e-mail) and phone coaching.  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information or to contact me.  I’d love to hear from you!


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