People Come, People Go

101I have often wondered why so many people come and go in our lives.  Or why we leave the lives of certain people. I understand that certain circumstances warrant the “loss” such as unhealthy relationships, career choices, moving, death, etc., but there is also another reason.  A reason that many people may not be aware of.

It was just recently I became aware, on a much deeper level of understanding, why the people in our lives change so much or don’t.  You see, when we make a decision to change ourselves or change parts of our lives, our vibration changes.  We are no longer living within the same vibrational frequency as we were before the changes were made.  It is this vibrational change that “controls” who and/or what shows up in our life experience. 

359Let’s say for example you live an unhappy life.  Your thoughts are mostly negative and nothing ever seems to go your way.  Then one day you realize enough is enough ~ you are done with the unhappiness so you make the decision to only be, speak and do happy and positive things.  Once you put your new outlook into play, it will only be within a matter of days you begin to feel the change in your vibration.  You will begin to feel better about yourself and about your life.  If you stick with your decision to be happy and stay positive, the people in your life will start to change as well.  You will start attracting those who are happy and positive along with “detracting” those who are not.  This does not make those who are not happy and positive “bad” people, it just makes them on a different vibrational frequency than where you now are.

21It is no different when you keep attracting the type of people you don’t want in your life.  Somewhere in your vibration you are either focusing too much on what you don’t want (instead of what you do want) or you have a negative underlying belief about yourself that will keep you in the same cycle of unwanted attractions.  Being observant of who and what comes into your life is a good indication of where your vibration is ~ it will either be positive or negative.


For the sake of a happy, joyful, and abundant life, it is wise to vibrate at a healthy frequency.  What you send out, you will most definitely get back.  People come and people go, so rely whole heartedly on yourself for your own happiness!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,


Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Dead End Relationships

Relationships are about positive growth. Not just within ourselves but within the other person as well.  It is natural for change to occur whether we want it to or not.  As we grow, make new or different choices, implement change within ourselves, take a different path, or stay idle where we are, there will be an effect on our relationships, all of them.  If these changes and choices cannot be embraced by the support and love of those in your life, your relationships may come to a dead-end.  A dead-end relationship is one that does not have the potential to move forward in a direction that you so desire.


The great spiritual teachers of our time say to enjoy every moment with those who come into our lives. This doesn’t mean those moments have to stretch into years or a lifetime.  It means enjoying one another for who they are for whatever period of time you so choose.  I do believe we have the ability to learn and grow from any and all relationship experiences, but why stay in one that is at a dead-end.  And yet so many people do.  Isn’t your life and happiness more important than a dead-end?


If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……

Love & Light,


Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach


Improve Your Relationships – Agree to Disagree

09How often do you find yourself in an intense argument over a disagreement?  Too often, relationships tear apart due to disagreements.  Why do we feel the NEED to be right?  If someone does not agree with you why give them the cold shoulder?  Is it really worth it?  Does it make you feel good?  Wouldn’t it be easier to agree to disagree; to allow one another to have their OWN thoughts and opinions on any given subject?  Isn’t this what makes each one of us unique? Can you imagine a world that was full of exactly the same person, or a world where everyone agreed on the same thing?  How boring would that be?  It is our own thoughts and opinions that make us who we are.

Many times, due to disagreements one or the other ends up shutting down.  We close ourselves off from certain subjects in order to avoid another argument.  Have you ever thought of what this does to the relationship?  It slowly kills it.  Who would want to be in a relationship where they could not express themselves freely and openly without the fear of being criticized or condemned?

62Instead of butting heads over the things you do not agree with, find love in your differences.  Cherish and appreciate your differences.  Allow one another to be their own unique self and then sit back and watch them flourish.  When you take the time to listen to someone else not only are you getting to know them, but you are also getting to know yourself through your differences.  It gives you a clearer picture of what you believe in and the things you stand for.  There is also the possibility that you may discover something wonderful within their thoughts and opinions.

When I come across someone who thinks I am totally out in left field because of what I believe, I accept it, I accept them and I accept their opinion of it.  It really is that easy and it makes having a conversation much more enjoyable.  There is nothing wrong with LISTENING to someone else’s personal or global views.  It does not mean you have to agree with them. What saddens me the most is when someone gets angry or walks away just because I don’t agree with every word they are saying. This just goes to show me they have some insecurity issues rolling around inside of them.

58We all came into this world with our own agenda, not anyone else’s.  What is so wrong with allowing everyone to be whom he or she chooses to be?  Would it not make for a more pleasant experience?  Instead of trying to change the thoughts, opinions, and beliefs of another, just worry about your own and be proud of the things you stand for.  You do not need anyone to justify your choices.  Just AGREE TO DISAGREE!

Love & Light,


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