You Are Not Your Inner Demons

sadnessDo you live with inner demons? Is there something you did in the past that haunts you day in and day out?  Do these demons control your life and control who you are?  Well, they do not have to.  There is nothing in the past that can affect you unless YOU ALLOW it to.  There is nothing that can DEFINE who you really are OR who you want to be unless YOU ALLOW it to.

Too often we live with guilt and regret over things we have said and done.  We allow these feelings to control our entire lives.  We live with self-criticism and at times loath ourselves.  For some the guilt and pain of the past causes feelings of unworthiness.  This will cause you to push against anything or anyone good that comes into your life.  You will destroy happiness and love because you do not feel worthy of it.  There are others, who will engage in self-sabotaging behaviors such as addictions in an effort to numb their thoughts and feelings.  For many, it is a non-ending cycle of suffering because of the choice to hang onto the past.  Yes, hanging onto the past is YOUR choice.

At one time or another we have done something we consider to be wrong or bad.  Others have committed acts of violent crimes.  Regardless of what it was that you have done, if you HONESTLY want to move away from it, and out of your past, you must find a way to forgive yourself, for if you cannot find forgiveness in yourself, you will never be able to move forward or heal.

th (1)Forgiveness toward ourselves is not always easy because we have to look in the mirror and like what we see.  We have to see who we are, not the demons that live inside of us. We have to come to terms with that which we did but we also have to accept it and ACCEPT OURSELVES for the same.  Forgiving and accepting yourself does not make what you did “right” it just RELEASES you from the past so that you can start living in the present moment.  Once you are in the present moment, your feelings of guilt, regret, and unworthiness will start to disappear faster than you can imagine.  When you live in the NOW how can you be what you once did?  You can’t because what happened in the past is not happening right now.

For many, negative thinking habits get in the way of moving forward and of feeling better.  This is when learning how to control your thoughts and practicing positive thinking comes in handy.  Whenever you find yourself thinking a negative thought, immediately change it to something pleasant.  It does not matter what that thought is, as long as it makes YOU FEEL GOOD.  Hold onto that thought for at least a minute or two.  When you do this, you will feel a shift in your vibration creating another pleasant thought that will pop in your head. 

Meditation is also an extremely valuable “practice” because the “freeing of the mind” creates the connection to your Inner Life, which will release your mind of all its clutter, trash, and negativity. It will also increase your awareness of the present moment, release resistance, and reduce stress, anxiety, and depression.  It will promote relaxation, inner peace and enhance your own personal and spiritual growth.

03If you struggle with worthiness, do things for other people.  It does not matter what it is, how big or how small, but just helping someone else out will promote feelings of “goodness” inside yourself.  Sometimes it is easier for us to be kinder to others than to ourselves and in doing so, it makes US feel GOOD as well.

You have a choice to live with your demons or to let them go.  The only excuse you have are the ones you make yourself.

If you truly want to let go of your past and move forward, then DO what you KNOW you have to do. Just remember that every moment you have is a chance to make your life better or worse.  It does not matter if you did something wrong five minutes ago, it is now in the past, and you now have the choice to do it again or to be who you really want to be.  

You are not your inner demons or what you have done – you are who you choose to be.

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

 

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Letting Go of Emotional Pain

03The mind creates emotional pain through the thoughts it thinks.  These thoughts come from your resistance to “what is”.  The more intense your pain, the more you are resisting the present moment.  Never will you find emotional pain in the present moment.  In reality the pain you are suffering is just an illusion created by the mind.  However, because many of us allow our minds to control our emotions we live with this unnecessary pain.  This is the same as living outside your-self; outside the present moment.

You are and will always be the present moment, but you may not always be in tune with it.  The present moment is where your connection to your inner-being and to the Universe is.  It is where your power lies; the power to create a joyful life experience.  We are all One with the Universe.

When you go against life, resisting what is, you are living in the past or future.  Your mind is feeding off experiences that do not exist.  Let’s say for example your relationship ends.  The only way you are going to feel emotional pain from this experience is from thinking thoughts related to your now PAST relationship.  Essentially, you are going against what is.  You are going against what your life is right NOW.  You are not accepting your life as it is in this moment.  This of course creates the negative emotions you feel which in turn creates the pain.  Of course you may feel “sorrow” for this loss but it does not have to control your life.

Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hahn

The Dalai Lama’s Little Book of Inner Peace by the Dalai Lama

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Living in the present moment means to be in control of your mind.  Pay attention to what you are thinking and where those thoughts take you.  Look out for triggers that may send you leaping into the past or future.  The moment a negative emotion arises you know your mind is trying to take you out of the Now.  The easiest way to re-focus is to become aware of where you are right now.  Pull yourself back into your body so to speak, leaving the mind behind.  The more you empty your mind, the more peace, joy, well-being and love will become your experience.

Water Red HeartLetting go of what was or what could be for what is will free you completely.  It allows you to stay focused in the present moment releasing you from the bonds of any moment that is not this moment.  This in itself will relieve your emotional pain.

Love & Light,

Cindy

** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I offer e-coaching (e-mail) and phone coaching.  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information, to contact me with questions or to schedule a session.  I’d love to hear from you!

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