Own it!

Someone recently said to me, very sternly I may add, as I was expressing feelings of guilt over a choice I made 9 years ago, “JUST OWN IT!”. She told me to own the fact that I not only did what was best for me, but I did what I had to do in order to save myself ~ end of story.  And just like that the guilt was gone.

I don’t know why it took so many years, but the moment I heard those words something inside of me changed.  I became free.  Not only from the guilt I had been holding onto, but also from disappointment, shame and regret playing faintly in the background of my life.  I couldn’t believe how easy it was ~ in an instant all those negative feelings were gone.  I was overwhelmed with relief and a sense of stillness I have not felt in quite some time.  

Although it was instantly clear, I didn’t realize I was holding onto a person who no longer existed.  Perhaps I just needed to grow into who I am today before I could let her go.  Perhaps I needed to come full circle with all of it, including myself.  Regardless, owning my choice gave me the power to let go of the guilt.  There was nothing left to fight.

Taking ownership of anything gives us control over it, which in turn gives us personal power.  When we hold onto negative feelings such as guilt, shame, disappointment or regret, we give them power because to some degree they control us.  They control how we feel and how we live our lives.  They can also leave us feeling powerless because we cannot go back and change what caused these feelings.   

Now, looking back, it was as though I was  “renting” those negative feelings because I continued to pay for them on one level or another.  I do believe, now that I can see the bigger picture, that NOT taking ownership of our choices and mistakes leaves us in limbo.  If you do not fully embrace and own the things you have said and done, how will you ever be able to let them go and move forward.   You will remain stuck in who you were instead of stepping into who you are becoming.

I Am Battle Worn

I have, over the last few weeks, gone back through my memory bank and taken ownership of all the things I’ve tried to bury.  And do you know what I have been left with?  I have been left with an undeniable feeling of peace and pureness.  This new “ownership process” has completely cleansed my mind, my heart, my spirit and my body.   I am more in tune with my Inner Life and I am living a more joyous life.  I have a lot to be proud of but I couldn’t see those things as much as I could see what I did “wrong”.  I have lived an amazing life even with all the chaos, challenges and struggles, but I am still smiling and shining brighter than I ever have!

Take some time my friends and think about your life.  Are you truly happy?  Are you living a joyous existence?  Are you happy with yourself inside and out?  Are you free and clear of the past or do you carry a bag full of regrets, mistakes, shame, guilt, disappointment?  Do you want to be free and feel proud of who you are and where you are?  Who cares how you came to be where you are ~ you are here now and you have the power to do, be and have everything you want!  So I say to you, OWN IT!  Make it yours!  Love yourself for it and let it go!  Be free my friends, be free!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be. – Cindy Ortiz

Live, Love & Breathe Life

Love & Light,



Your Journey Is Now

719Our journey is Now.  Always has been, always will be. Many of us tend to think our journey is about the desired destination, but it is not.  How could it be when all that is, is right Now?  

There was a time when all I focused on was getting to where I wanted to be, missing out on everything in between.  How sad it was when I realized how much I had missed – the feel of the sun, the smell of the air, the character in each and every tree, the smiling faces on the flowers, the cracks in the sidewalk, the love of friends and family, the beauty of each and every living individual around me.  It was then that I knew without a shadow of a doubt that our journey is Now.  It is not yesterday and it is not tomorrow.  

90Living your journey through the power of the present moment will take you to where you want to be and then some. It will take you moment by precious moment, bringing you more in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you really are.  

I know it is not always easy to be here now, so just breathe your way through it.  When you start to feel any type of “I don’t want to be here”, take a few minutes and just breathe.  Close your eyes and allow yourself to feel the aliveness, the joy, the peace, and the happiness that is right there inside of you.  Your journey is now.  Relax, find peace within your Inner Life, savor the moment, and just be happy!

“If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be.”  – Cindy Ortiz

Love & Light,


Temporary Bouts of Unhappiness

104There will be times in your life when you experience bouts of unhappiness. These bouts are only temporary if you want them to be. They come from being out of tune with your Inner Life, with who you really are. Once you get back in tune your life will get back to where you want it to be, guaranteed.

There are, and will always be, certain life situations which will cause you to become out of tune with your Inner Life. They could range in intensity from something very mild to something as gut wrenching as the loss of a loved one. Regardless the intensity, when you remain within yourself through any unwanted life situation, the outcome ~ how it affects you ~ will be a positive one. Meaning, it won’t define who you are nor will it take anything away from you. In extreme situations there will be periods of emotional pain and sadness, but there will also be peace and well-being deep within which will be felt when you are in tune with your Inner Life.

99To live through your Inner Life is no different from living in the present moment because you are the present moment. You are here now and that is something that will never change. The present moment is full of positive energy, abundance, well-being, unconditional love, peace, joy and true happiness. It is a natural part of who you really are. You are never without it.

Your Inner Life does not know the past, future, stress, worry, anxiety, depression, dis-ease or lack. It is when we live outside ourselves, in our outer lives, that we suffer and live unhappy lives. The more consistently you live in the present moment, the more in tune you will be and the more your life will change. There is nothing complicated about it because it is your natural state of being.

103When faced with bouts of unhappiness, it is up to you as to how long you want to keep them alive. The most powerful “tool” I have found through my 25 years of experience and study is also a natural part of who you are. It is called breathing. Yes, that is it ~ plain and simple. Breathing my way back in tune with my Inner Life has been the easiest and most effective method I have ever tried and used. And trust me when I say I have tried everything under the sun!   Just follow the link below for Inner Life Breathing!

Inner Life Breathing – Live Love & Breathe Life

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach