Don’t Let It Affect Your Today

36Every day is a new day; a new beginning if you choose.  What happened yesterday no longer matters unless you want it to matter.  Some of us wake with dread due to things we have said or done the day before we are not proud of.  Some of us wake with dread over things we have not said or done that we know we should have.  Regardless of what you have done or not done, don’t let it affect your today.  Move on with a positive attitude and a renewed spirit.

When the negative energy of regret is carried around it will eventually build on itself.  It will stop you from doing the “right” things because at the same time it causes you to feel “less than”.  You feel bad about the things done or not done so therefore you feel bad about yourself.  Some get to the point where they lose their worthiness and self-love.  When you get to this point, life may turn destructive.  You may start picking up bad behavior patterns, become irresponsible, stop caring or even suffer from depression.

We were taught from the time we were born that we should feel “bad” when we do “bad” things, however, what is the point in feeling bad as long as you are remorseful?  If you can rectify the situation, than rectify it.  If you need to do or say something, then just do it; stop putting it off.  Do whatever you need to do to get past the feeling of “badness” and back to feeling good.  If an amends is in order and the person you are making that amends to is not accepting of it, do not take it personally and don’t hang onto their negative response.  If they choose not to forgive, that is their problem, not yours.

I am, of course, speaking in terms of minor “offenses”.  When you get into major offenses, it gets a little complicated but still possible to move on.

22If you find it difficult to move away from the negative feelings, turn your focus onto something else.  The best thing would be to think of something that does make you feel good.  It does not matter if it is something that happened 10 years ago, if it makes you laugh and gives you positive feelings, think about it as much as possible.  The next thing would be to feel appreciation and love for all the great things and people in your life.  Once you start conditioning yourself and changing your focus, it will start to come automatically because your body and mind will then be programmed to feel good when it starts to feel bad!  Trust me, it works, I have done it!

Feeling bad about ourselves or our actions can very quickly diminish our joy and happiness but it does not have to.  You can still be happy today no matter what was done yesterday.  In other words, “life” does not have to change who you really are.  You are human, you are going to make mistakes, just don’t let those mistakes eat you alive. You are worthy. You are loved.

Love & Light,

Cindy

** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I am currently offering e-coaching (e-mail).  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information or to contact me.  I’d love to hear from you!

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Lacking Belief in Yourself

10Believing in yourself will make you feel confident, self-assured and worthy.  You will stand up for what you believe in, acknowledge your accomplishments, and take pride in your work and efforts. Although things may not always go the way you want them to, you recognize that you did your best and you keep on trying.  You do not acknowledge “failure” as a negative but as a stepping stone toward something better.  You have faith and trust that all is well and great things are yet to come.  You are authentic in who you are and treat yourself with respect.  You nurture and care for your physical, mental and spiritual well-being. Your internal focus and thoughts are always on the positive aspects of life and of who you truly are.

If you live with disbelief in yourself, it can lead to a very self-destructive life style.  You will be filled with self-doubt, inherit self-sabotaging behaviors, call yourself names, criticize everything you do or don’t do, and question your worthiness.  You treat yourself the same way an abusive partner would treat you.  Eventually you grow to be detached from the world and live with self-hatred.  You no longer care about who you are or what you are doing.  You allow negativity to control you creating mental and physical health issues.

Living with this type of disbelief comes from only one place and that is the past.  Somewhere along the line you attached yourself to negative belief patterns that you play over and over in your head.  Your awareness of these belief patterns may not always be in the forefront but they are there just waiting for something or someone to trigger them.  Once they are triggered your self-worth drops ten stories and you are left standing in a pool of self-doubt.  Before you know it, you are living in your past and you have left your true-self behind.

46The best way to conquer these negative belief patterns is to nip them in the bud as soon as they arise.  How will you know they have risen before it is too late?  You will know by how you feel.  As soon as you start to feel “bad”, take note of what you are thinking.  Be consciously aware of what words are playing in your mind.  Once you are aware of what you are thinking, you are now in control because you have the power to stop it.  You have the power to change your beliefs. 

A belief is ONLY a thought that you keep thinking.  Take the time to replace ALL negative beliefs and thought patterns with positive ones.  It does not matter if you believe what you are now telling yourself.  Eventually your mind will reprogram itself to believe the “new” thoughts and so will you!  This process will also keep you in the present moment and that is where you want to be.  There is never any negativity when you are focused in the present moment.  The past and future do not exist in the present moment so there will never be disbelief or self-doubt in yourself!  So where would you like to be ~ in the past disbelieving in yourself or in the present moment believing completely in yourself?!

Love & Light,

Cindy

** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I offer e-coaching (e-mail) and phone coaching.  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information or to contact me.  I’d love to hear from you!

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