Free Yourself From Regret

135Throughout our lives we will say and do things which will cause regret. These things may be said or done in the “heat of the moment” or while “temporarily suspended” from our Inner Life, who we really are.  The regret we feel may come instantly or it may come later after the realization of what we did hits us.  What makes it worse is when we not only hurt ourselves but when we hurt those we love.

Regret is a negative emotion that if held onto can cause even more pain and suffering then what you may already be experiencing.  It is also an emotion that could very easily control you.  If you live with the belief that you deserve the pain your regret has created, it will eventually eat you alive, gnawing away at you piece by piece until there is nothing left.  On the other hand, if you are willing to embrace yourself, your actions, and your regret in a positive light, allowing them to serve a higher purpose, you may just find a little treasure hidden within your regret.  A treasure that will reveal to you who you truly want to be and also, who you are not. 

817When a life experience creates the feeling of regret, it is also just a friendly reminder that you are out of tune with your Inner Life.  The best thing you can do to free yourself from regret is to remember it does not exist.  The experience is over and the feeling of regret is just that – a feeling – a feeling that can in fact be controlled by you.  You can choose to keep it in your present life experience or you can choose to let it go.  You are here now, not there then. 

There may be nothing you can do to change what was said or done, but taking personal responsibility for it will help in the healing process.  Owning up to our mistakes not only empowers us but it also helps to free ourselves from the regret and the pain we are experiencing.  There is no sense in holding onto something in the past especially when it can cause so much damage to ourselves and eventually to those around us. 

819When the regret you feel comes from hurting another, it is harder to let go of because you are not the only one hurting.  Your words and actions can cut like a knife leaving a small trail of blood in its path. Trying to look someone in the eye to say “I am sorry” while feeling worthless and humiliated by your own hand is a humbling experience to say the least. There is no guarantee they will find forgiveness in their heart for you, but you must find forgiveness in your own heart for yourself in order to heal.

Regardless of what caused your regret, you will always have a choice as to who you are going to be at any given moment in time.  You can choose the same behavior or you can choose to be who you really are.  Living through your Inner Life will always guide you in the right direction, freeing you from past and future regret.

 If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

 

 

How Much Does Your Life Weigh?

What is life weight?  Life weight is what you carry around with you on a day-to-day basis that you do not need.  Two of the heaviest pieces of weight we carry with us is past and future weight. We clog ourselves up with negative events from the past and worries about the future not realizing how much damage it is doing to our bodies and minds. This type of life weight will cause you to be out of tune with your Inner Life creating stress, anxiety, depression, weight problems, addictions, frustration, anger, fear and/or disease.

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The only weight you should be concerned about at any given moment in time is the weight you need right NOW. Surprisingly enough the weight you need right now does not exist. There is no life weight when you live in the here and now because there is nothing in the present moment to weigh you down.  Why is this?  Because nothing from the past or future ever exists when you are focused and living in the present moment!  

Let’s say for example that someone hurt you many years ago and yet you still hold onto the pain.  You avoid getting close to anyone in fear of being hurt again.  You have lost your confidence and you have no trust when it comes to relationships.  Do you need this memory and the pain in order to live?  No, of course not.  So why do you allow it to weigh you down?  Why do you allow it to control you?  If you were to lose the weight of this past event, how do you think you would feel?  Yes, you would feel relief and you would feel good again not only about yourself but about the possibility of future relationships.  

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If you would like to figure out how much your life weighs take out several pieces of paper and write down all the negative past events that you think about on a regular basis.  Write down every future worry you have.  Now take some time to read and re-read your lists and then ask yourself, being totally honest, how much of this stuff do I need RIGHT NOW?  I can guarantee you won’t need any of it and you won’t stop breathing from the lack of it.  In fact, you will probably begin to breathe easier, feeling lighter and lighter as you get rid of each and every piece of weight.

Each day when you wake up, take a few minutes before getting out of bed to remind yourself that you do not need all of your life’s weight in order to survive.  So before your feet hit the floor, leave them all behind and start your day off with a very deep breath of relief knowing there will be nothing weighing you down today! All you need is you in the present moment so don’t waste another minute of your life!

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If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be…
Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

What Has Waiting Done For You

353How much of your life have you spent waiting? I am not talking about outer life waiting such as waiting to graduate, waiting to buy a house, waiting in a line, or in traffic.  I am talking about waiting to fully embrace your Inner Life which will bring you peace, well-being, abundance and true happiness.

Your Inner Life is the core of who you really are, the non-physical part of your true being.  It is the center of all that is and all that will ever be. It is the pure and true “one with” connection to Source.

Your Inner Life is always alive, happy and joyful because it is in and of the present moment.  It knows nothing different.  It never needs to wait to feel good because feeling good is its natural state of being. Which means, feeling good is your natural state of being.

The Teachings of Abraham – Abraham Hicks Publications

Ask and It Is Given – Learning to Manifest Your Desires – Abraham Hicks

354When you project yourself into the future or anywhere other than where you are Now, it creates inner conflict. This conflict causes you to be out of tune with your Inner Life.  This is the same as being out of balance.  This imbalance will deplete you of positive energy because let’s face it, if you are not happy Now, you are going to emanate negative energy. This negative energy will in fact impact every area of your life ~ body, mind & spirit.

Waiting for anything takes the joy out of where and who you are now. In turn, it takes the joy out of life.  When you are focused on trying to find something or someone to make you feel good, you completely lose sight of the present moment.  

351Waiting is no different from saying I am not happy Now, I want something better.  Why do we wait for something specific before we allow ourselves to be happy?  If you are happy Now, everything you want will come into play and before you know it all good things will be manifesting for you.  You are the creator of your own reality. The better you feel, the happier you will be.  The happier you are, the easier it is to create the life you want because you are then in tune with your Inner Life.

The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle

The New Earth – Eckhart Tolle

Stillness Speaks – Eckhart Tolle

If the present moment is not good enough Now, how do you expect the future to be any better when you carry forward the feelings of “not good enough”?  The present moment is where all of Life is.  It is where your dreams and desires are created and born.  Waiting is where life will crumble and die.  

346If abundance and true happiness is what you desire, you will only find it in the present moment.  You will not find it by waiting for the next best thing to come along.  Waiting will only attract more waiting.

Life is Now.  You are Now.  Be here now and the rest will fall into place.  There is no need to wait for anything or anyone.  Everything you need is inside you.  It is a part of who you are. Your natural state of being is love and happiness so there is nothing to seek out.  All you have to do is get back in tune with who you really are; with your Inner Life.

348Acceptance of, and appreciation for, where you are, who you are, and what you have will put you back in tune.  This in itself will eliminate the need to wait because you will begin to feel and have peace, well-being, abundance and true happiness.  So I ask you this one question ~ what has waiting done for you?

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

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