It Is Time to Positively Beat Yourself Up

How often do you “beat yourself up” over something great you did, said or achieved?  How much time do you spend praising, loving or admiring yourself for all the positive aspects of who you are and your life?  Probably not as much as you do for the negative.  I know I never spent nearly as much time on the positive as I did the negative until I finally got the point where not feeling good and not being happy was no longer an option for me. 

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A challenge for a lot of us is letting go of our mistakes or the feeling that we are a “bad” person.  Not only do we swim in the guilt of our mistakes, but we also judge and criticize ourselves.  We carry these negative feelings around with us as if we have no choice in the matter.  Punishing yourself this way takes away time ~ valuable time that you will never be able to get back.

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There is a large majority of people in the world today who struggle with life and have an ongoing battle inside themselves because they believe they are a “bad” person for one mistake or another.  It is this belief that can easily turn into a destructive negative self-image, not to mention a destructive life style.  If you don’t change your beliefs about yourself you will eventually end up chronically out of tune with your Inner Life.  This in itself will make life feel like an uphill battle.

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No matter what your mistakes WERE, it is time to let them go and start focusing on now, not then.  There is nothing you can do to change what has already happened, but you can change what is going to happen now.  You can change who you are, where you are, and what you want to do.  Take the time to think about the good, not the bad, and let that be your focus point.  It is time to positively “beat yourself up”, leaving the mistakes and negativity behind you. You are in control of how you feel and what you believe, so what’s it going to be?

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Taking A Leap of Faith – From Fear to Happiness

SONY DSCI used to fear being happy.  I was afraid if I became truly happy something or someone would take that happiness away from me so I lived in unhappiness.  What I didn’t know at the time was that there was nothing to fear and that I was the one responsible for my own happiness.  No matter what was said or done to me, I always had the choice as to how I was going to let it affect me.  Unfortunately, I allowed too many things affect me in a very negative way.  I allowed everyone to have control over my happiness.  Basically, I was putting my entire life in the hands of others because I didn’t know any better and because I was afraid not to.  I didn’t know all I had to do was to live through my Inner Life, the greater part of who we are.  To live in the present moment and allow life to move with me, instead of against me, took all the fear away.

34When I had enough unhappiness, I took a huge leap of faith from fear to happiness.  I let go of everything I was holding onto, especially my fear, and I CHOSE happiness.  I chose to feel good now instead of waiting for something or someone to make me happy.  I chose to be here now, to live and focus as much as I could in the present moment, and to live first through my Inner Life.  I set aside all those outer life things that were causing my fear and unhappiness.  I relaxed, trusted myself, and embraced life.  For the first time in my life I felt like I was able to breathe.  I was free from the pain and fear.  I soon came to learn there was nothing to fear in myself or in my life.  And there is nothing to fear in yours either!

789Was it, or has it always been easy?  No, of course not, but it has been well worth it.  The times that were difficult were only difficult because I was putting up resistance to what was, out of fear.  I was trying to control what was happening instead of remaining in my relaxed state of being and allowing life to flow naturally, easily and effortlessly.  In time, it did get easier and to this day I still have my moments where I sway just a little towards fear, but the good thing is that I am so aware of how I feel and how I want to feel, that I never fall.

F – Faith

E – Energy

A – Adventurous

R – Resilience

15What is fear?  Fear is a word.  A word we have given much power to.  Fear is a belief.  A belief that something is so bad it causes us to be scared.  Think for a moment about how putting the word fear to a thing creates such negativity and fear within ourselves.  For example, many of us are afraid of snakes and spiders, but why?  Because we were taught they were something to fear.  What if we were taught that kittens were something to fear and snakes and spiders were cute and cuddly?  Ok, that may be stretching it a bit, but I think you get my point.  The things we tie fear to are only in our minds.  We all have the power and the ability to change what causes us fear and what doesn’t.

Frog 02What are you afraid of right now in your life?  Are you afraid of changing jobs, moving to a new town, ending your relationship, not losing weight, getting sick, losing a loved one?  Which fears are causing you the most unhappiness and what are you going to do about it?  Isn’t it time to take a leap of faith from fear to happiness?  To trust yourself, relax and embrace life.  Or would you rather live the rest of your life wondering what could have been, if only …..

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …. 

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Run With the Positive Possibilities

25When was the last time you ran with the positive possibilities of an unwanted situation?  As human beings, we have a tendency to allow our outer life situations affect us in a negative way. We allow them to take us down, turn us around, and control who we become, sometimes for a lifetime.  But, my question is why?  Why do we deprive ourselves of happiness just because something went awry?  What is so wrong with being happy no matter what is going on?  Do you truly believe being happy is going to make things worse?

I do understand, from personal experience, how difficult it can be to feel good when it seems as though your life is falling apart.  But I also understand how much easier it is to handle an unwanted situation when you feel good. 

The real problem starts when you put up a wall against something unwanted.  You don’t want to face it or deal with it, so you hide behind your wall trying to forget about it or trying not to feel the fear, worry or pain it may be causing you.  This in itself only makes matters worse because you are filling yourself up with resistance, avoidance, frustration, anger, and negativity.  You are going against what is and the present moment.

818When you step out ahead, leaving your wall behind, and allow your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are, to guide you, you will clearly see all that is needed to be seen.  You will be able to face the unwanted with ease and flow.  And when you go a little deeper, the positive possibilities of what it has to offer will begin to reveal themselves to you in ways you may not have ever imagined. 

Free yourself from the unwanted by turning your attention to the positive possibilities of what lies ahead.  There is, and will always be, a positive with every negative, so no matter where you are in life at this moment……relax, breathe and run with the positive possibilities!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …. 

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach