People Come, People Go

101I have often wondered why so many people come and go in our lives.  Or why we leave the lives of certain people. I understand that certain circumstances warrant the “loss” such as unhealthy relationships, career choices, moving, death, etc., but there is also another reason.  A reason that many people may not be aware of.

It was just recently I became aware, on a much deeper level of understanding, why the people in our lives change so much or don’t.  You see, when we make a decision to change ourselves or change parts of our lives, our vibration changes.  We are no longer living within the same vibrational frequency as we were before the changes were made.  It is this vibrational change that “controls” who and/or what shows up in our life experience. 


359Let’s say for example you live an unhappy life.  Your thoughts are mostly negative and nothing ever seems to go your way.  Then one day you realize enough is enough ~ you are done with the unhappiness so you make the decision to only be, speak and do happy and positive things.  Once you put your new outlook into play, it will only be within a matter of days you begin to feel the change in your vibration.  You will begin to feel better about yourself and about your life.  If you stick with your decision to be happy and stay positive, the people in your life will start to change as well.  You will start attracting those who are happy and positive along with “detracting” those who are not.  This does not make those who are not happy and positive “bad” people, it just makes them on a different vibrational frequency than where you now are.


21It is no different when you keep attracting the type of people you don’t want in your life.  Somewhere in your vibration you are either focusing too much on what you don’t want (instead of what you do want) or you have a negative underlying belief about yourself that will keep you in the same cycle of unwanted attractions.  Being observant of who and what comes into your life is a good indication of where your vibration is ~ it will either be positive or negative.

 

For the sake of a happy, joyful, and abundant life, it is wise to vibrate at a healthy frequency.  What you send out, you will most definitely get back.  People come and people go, so rely whole heartedly on yourself for your own happiness!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Knowing Your Worth – Moving On

605When you know your worth, and you are worthy, the hurtful words and actions of others go through you instead of knocking you down.  For me, they filter through my Inner Life and become purified into love.  Love toward the one who is still suffering. 

The one’s who suffer are the ones who hurt us the most.  They say they love us and yet at the same time they aim their spears at us.  Spears filled with THEIR inner pain masked as hurtful words and actions.  When the pain of the past begins to stir within them it is easier to avoid what they don’t want to feel so they search for an outlet ~ another way around the pain instead of just facing the truth ~ their truth. 

If the suffering is understood on a higher level, knowing someone’s hurtful ways come from a very deep seeded pain within THEM, we can be patient because we understand.  We can try to help and guide this person away from what doesn’t matter toward what really does matter.  However, there comes a point when enough is enough.  When you have tried to be there, to reach out, to love, to be honest and forgiving but to no avail.  You are worthy of more, of better, of your true dreams and desires.

106Ending this type of relationship does not make you the bad guy.  It makes you the guy who cares enough about yourself and your happiness, as you should, to let go and move on.  It makes you the guy who now chooses to live through your Inner Life, through love for yourself, more so than through obligation or guilt. This doesn’t mean you can’t care about their well-being, because you can.

It is not your job or duty to make others “better”.  It is up to them to change, but first they have to want to change, and they have to do it on their own.   Putting your worth first and foremost will allow you to move on free of guilt and pain. 

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

 

Telling the Truth About Yourself to Yourself

75I know all too well from past experience what unhappiness feels like and how it can destroy not only your sense of peace and well-being but your health and life experiences.  I also know what true happiness feels like and how it enhances your sense of peace, well-being, improves your health and creates joyous life experiences. 

The hardest part for me, into my journey toward true happiness, was telling the truth about me.  Writing down who I was at that moment in time, how I felt about myself, and the things I was doing to create my miserably unhappy life.  This journaling process did in fact create some pain, but it was only temporary.  It was no worse than living the way I was living on a day-to-day basis.  I took the bad with the good because I knew in my heart the only way back to me was to face the person in the mirror. 

68I had avoided myself for nearly 20 years because I did not like who I was.  I was uncomfortable in my own skin and couldn’t stand a moment alone with myself.  I tried everything under the sun to feel better but when nothing worked, I knew the time had come.  I knew I had to face who I was before I could release who I had become.  This did NOT involve going back through my entire past dredging up all the things I had regret.  It involved sitting down with pen and paper and talking to myself in the present moment.  I wrote about how I felt at that moment, I wrote about the things I was doing or not doing that were causing me to be unhappy. I wrote about my self-sabotaging behaviors.  I even wrote about what was bringing me happiness so I would have something good and positive to focus on.  I questioned myself and my motives and before I knew it, I had pages and pages filled with words that not only brought me relief, but brought me clarity.  When I was done, the answers were all right there in front of me.  That was the end.  There was no going back.  I walked out of who I was not and right into the greater part of who I truly am. 

76As simple and easy as it may sound, I would be lying if I said the last 8 years have been completely filled with joy, because they have not.  I have had significant struggles just like everyone else, but once I chose happiness and began living through my Inner Life, my life completely changed.  Through practiced awareness, meditation, mindful living, and putting how I feel as my priority, I have been able to handle life with ease, and yes, true happiness.  I may feel frustrated or sad from time to time, but I am never unhappy! 

There were some residual setbacks at the start of my journey, but I did what I had to do. Only this time I was doing it with no resistance.  I was no longer fighting with myself or with life.  I had surrendered to who I was not.  I had conquered the demons inside me.  It was then I was able to begin to love myself and feel the happiness that resided inside me.  It felt like I was born again and given a clean slate.  The only thing I wanted was to be truly happy and I wasn’t going to stop until I had it and learned how to maintain it.  This was 8 years ago.  Today, as I write this to you, I am still Leaping Like A Frog – A Happy one that is!

63As you learn and practice your way into true happiness, you will be witness to some of the most magnificent and amazing moments life has to offer. Just about everything changes in a manner that brings you peace, well-being, abundance and true joy and happiness.  All those worries and woes cease to exist, health issues begin to improve, healing replaces pain, energy increases, positive thinking replaces negative thinking, money starts flowing in, and all those dreams and desires you have will begin to show themselves!  But, it doesn’t stop there.  Reaching this “level” of happiness will create a shift so great that nothing else will matter except for how you feel.  It is then that being unhappy will be nearly impossible because you will have had the sweet taste of true happiness and nothing will take you away from that!

66There is nothing to regret, feel guilty over, wish you had done differently or carry pain for.  Your transition into true and lasting happiness will in fact dissolve these feelings.  The things you feared the most won’t create as much pain or upset as you may have thought they would.  This is because when you are in tune with your Inner Life, when you are focused on being and feeling happy, your reactions and thoughts change with the desire of wanting to feel good.  You will react in a more positive manner, one that will not shatter your feelings of happiness.

Telling the truth about yourself to yourself and then making happiness your number one priority will change everything.  It changes how you feel, how you think, what you have and what you don’t have.  It creates healthy relationships, satisfying careers, and yes, it even creates more money in the bank.  It also puts you back in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are.  With this will come complete well-being.  What more could you ask for?

78Perhaps this is the time for you to look inside yourself and to be honest.  For you to tell the truth about yourself to yourself.  The truth as to what you are doing or not doing that is creating your unhappiness and dissatisfaction with life.  It is not life not giving you what you want, it is you not giving you what you want. 

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach