The Gift of Self-Love

86To truly and fully love one’s self unconditionally is the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself but to others. When you live in and through love, you are living completely in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are. The love of self will radiate the pure nature of your true being.  It will, without effort, create life experiences that will bring you peace, appreciation, well-being, joy, happiness and abundance.

Every piece of our lives play out to the tune in which we created it ~ happy or unhappy ~ positive or negative ~ difficult or easy.  When you live in and through self-love, what do you think the outcome will be?  If you were able, and you are, to see and feel nothing but the love in you, about you, and around you, life would transform before your very eyes.  Feeding yourself love on a daily basis affects your body, mind and spirit bringing to you the natural flow of wellness, healing and positive energy.

The love of self does not always come easy especially for those who have difficulty appreciating and accepting their physical looks or forgiving themselves for their past mistakes. These two things alone can hinder one’s personal, mental and spiritual growth not to speak of creating a life that is filled with sadness, depression, dis-ease, guilt, regret, unhappiness and in some cases self-hatred.  For these and many more, they pay the consequences for the lack of self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and self-love.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  You always have a choice as to how you want to feel and how much love you want to give to yourself.  There is no one to blame but yourself.

371What most of us tend to forget is that we were created THROUGH LOVE and so WE ARE LOVE. This is a part of us that can NEVER be taken away.  It is the greater and most powerful part of who you really are!  You ARE and will ALWAYS be LOVE and LOVED – completely, wholly and unconditionally!

Starting the process of unconditional self-love can be daunting at first, but depending on where you are in your journey, it could come very naturally to you, just like riding a bike.  The first and most difficult thing I had to do was to come face to face with myself.  To take a long hard look at myself not only physically but also personally, mentally and spiritually.  I had to come to terms with the shape of my body and all of my past mistakes but once I made it over these hurdles, the rest fell easily and effortlessly into place.  You see, when you truly care about and love yourself the bad habits, unhealthy life styles, unfulfilling relationships, etc. slip away. They slip away because you know how they are going to make you feel and if they don’t make you feel anything by joy and happiness, why would you give them to yourself? 

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON!

ACCEPT AND APPRECIATE ALL OF WHO YOU ARE!

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST!

PAMPER YOURSELF – YOU DESERVE IT!

LOVE YOURSELF INSIDE & OUT, EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

283Truly caring for and loving yourself means making you and how you feel your #1 priority.  It means nurturing and caring for yourself as you would an infant.  It means giving to yourself, not just to others.  It means taking the time to appreciate who you are and how you look, knowing you are pure perfection.  When you make a mistake, and you will, take the time and effort to truly forgive yourself and allow yourself the freedom to move forward.  Self-love also means having self-compassion – be compassionate toward yourself instead of judgmental or critical.  Spend as much time as possible laughing and having fun!  Be patient and kind to yourself as we are all a work in progress.  Love yourself enough to be who you really want to be.  Follow your own heart.  Do what inspires you and enlightens you.  Surround yourself with people who make you feel alive and add to your experience, not take away from it.  Love yourself from the inside out.  If you create from love, it will never go wrong!  Most importantly, love yourself for exactly who you once were, who you are today, and who you are becoming!

139If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

Cindy K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

The Inner Life Journey

Letting Go of Emotional Wounds

377There are no emotional wounds that are unable to be healed.  If your wounds are not healed or are not healing as fast as you would like, it is through no fault but of your own.  We are the ones who are in control of our healing.  We are the ones who control how our wounds affects us.  And if you want to take it one step further, we are the ones who turn something into a wound.  Yes, we all have them, and there may be more to come, but it is up to us as to how they play out in our lives.  We can allow them to control and destroy our well-being, sense of peace, and happiness or we can learn and grow from them.  We can turn them into something positive even if it means just accepting them for what they are until we are able to see the light they hold.  So if you live with old or new wounds and they cause you to feel anything less than joy or happiness, isn’t it time to let them go? Isn’t it time to return to the present moment, get back in tune with your Inner Life, release the past, and give yourself some room to breathe again?

Love & Light,

Cindy

The Twists and Turns of Trust

09What is it about trust that gets us so tied up in knots?  I know I have had my share of trust issues, a few of which I still need to lay to rest.  However, life has become easier and more peaceful since I came to the realization of what trust issues really are and where they come from. 

In simple terms, trust issues are evil monsters that control us because we allow them to.  We allow them to run amuck 24/7 not giving ourselves a fighting chance to let go and move on.  They are the little mind monsters that remind you over and over again how someone hurt you, lied to you, left you, or cheated on you. 

Now, in reality trust issues are merely negative thoughts that cause us to become out of tune with our Inner Life, the greater and more powerful part of who we are.  The part of us that does not know negative energy such as trust issues, but only knows positive energy such as peace, well-being, abundance and unconditional love.

106These thoughts, as I am sure you already know, stem only from a PAST experience you choose to hold onto.  Yet, the past no longer exists so how can trust issues exist?  They exist because we give them the power to exist ~ but why?  I have asked myself this question over and over again and still can’t come up with a sane answer. 

Allowing trust issues into our lives robs us of our present moment life experiences so much so that it becomes torturous for some because they can’t let them go.  They can’t move out of the past and into the present so they end up getting stuck in a vicious cycle of negativity.  Nothing feels good when you can’t trust others, yourself included, not to speak of the Universe or God.

Trust issues grow through our OUTER life experiences.  This includes any and all relationships, even the one we have with ourselves.  Yes, some suffer from not trusting themselves to make the “right” choices and decisions and therefore creating a stress filled and unpleasant life.  Trust issues can also grow from someone else’s life experience such as death.  For example, if you lost your parents at a young age, it may have caused you to lose trust in the Universe or God.  You may think losing your parents was unfair making the Universe or God unfair, and therefore untrustworthy.  Or, if you suffered a traumatic childhood experience, you could have lost your trust in the Universe or God for not protecting you.

01Another reason so many suffer from trust issues is because of the label they give the experience that caused them not to trust.  We all label our unwanted experiences as something bad, something that hurt us, something that caused us to feel pain.  But what we tend to forget is that we have a choice as to how we feel.  We are the ones who choose to feel negative emotion and therefore choose not to trust anyone ever again.  Sounds kind of silly doesn’t it ~ that even one experience can be carried forward so much so that it affects every relationship we have from that point on.  WOW!  That’s a lot of untrusting going on isn’t it?

I am certainly not saying feeling some level of negative emotion is unwarranted, because it is warranted.  It is a natural human reaction to feel pain when someone hurts us.  What you choose to do with that pain is what is important.  If you allow it to take you down, ruin the rest of your life, and cause you never to trust anyone or anything again, well, you are in for a pretty unhappy and probably depressing life. 

58However, what if you were to put a positive spin on these experiences?  What if you were to be thankful for the experience, allowing it to guide you to a more positive place in your life.  A place where you can truly see and acknowledge that what another person does or says is not against you, it is against them.  It is who they are, not who you are.  What if you used it as an opportunity to step up to yourself, to build on your own worth, and to know without a shadow of a doubt that it wasn’t personal.  Wouldn’t that help ease the pain?  Yes, it may still hurt and that’s okay.  Just don’t let it take control of you.  If someone chooses to live a dishonest life, it’s all on them.  It is their “out of tune-ment” with their Inner Life which will eventually cause them all sorts of unwanted life experiences.

62Now, should you find yourself wrapped up in relationships that only cause you pain and distrust, it can only mean one thing.  You are still living in the past.  You are still emitting negative energy that screams “I can’t trust anyone”!  The more you focus on not being able to trust, the more people and things you can’t trust will come into your life experience.  It’s the law of attraction and there is no way around it.  What you put out, you get back, no questions asked.  What you want to do is focus on the type of relationship you desire leaving the trust issues out of it.  This will change the type of energy you are emitting and therefore attract positive and healthy relationships.

The twists and turns of trust are never in the Now.  They are never in your present life experience because they are never and will never be a part of your Inner Life.  The present moment is nothing but pure positive loving energy and your Inner Life is the present moment.  So, when you find yourself, and you will from time to time, tangled up in the twists and turns of trust issues, hit pause, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and focus on the present moment.  Feel the movement of your breath in and through your body…….you are here now, not there then.  Take some time to observe where your thoughts are and then bring yourself back to your Inner Life focusing on the things you know will make you feel good.  The more you practice living through your Inner Life versus your outer life, the faster your past experiences will fade, leaving your trust issues in the wind.

Love & Light,

Cindy