Own it!

Someone recently said to me, very sternly I may add, as I was expressing feelings of guilt over a choice I made 9 years ago, “JUST OWN IT!”. She told me to own the fact that I not only did what was best for me, but I did what I had to do in order to save myself ~ end of story.  And just like that the guilt was gone.

I don’t know why it took so many years, but the moment I heard those words something inside of me changed.  I became free.  Not only from the guilt I had been holding onto, but also from disappointment, shame and regret playing faintly in the background of my life.  I couldn’t believe how easy it was ~ in an instant all those negative feelings were gone.  I was overwhelmed with relief and a sense of stillness I have not felt in quite some time.  

Although it was instantly clear, I didn’t realize I was holding onto a person who no longer existed.  Perhaps I just needed to grow into who I am today before I could let her go.  Perhaps I needed to come full circle with all of it, including myself.  Regardless, owning my choice gave me the power to let go of the guilt.  There was nothing left to fight.

Taking ownership of anything gives us control over it, which in turn gives us personal power.  When we hold onto negative feelings such as guilt, shame, disappointment or regret, we give them power because to some degree they control us.  They control how we feel and how we live our lives.  They can also leave us feeling powerless because we cannot go back and change what caused these feelings.   

Now, looking back, it was as though I was  “renting” those negative feelings because I continued to pay for them on one level or another.  I do believe, now that I can see the bigger picture, that NOT taking ownership of our choices and mistakes leaves us in limbo.  If you do not fully embrace and own the things you have said and done, how will you ever be able to let them go and move forward.   You will remain stuck in who you were instead of stepping into who you are becoming.

I Am Battle Worn

I have, over the last few weeks, gone back through my memory bank and taken ownership of all the things I’ve tried to bury.  And do you know what I have been left with?  I have been left with an undeniable feeling of peace and pureness.  This new “ownership process” has completely cleansed my mind, my heart, my spirit and my body.   I am more in tune with my Inner Life and I am living a more joyous life.  I have a lot to be proud of but I couldn’t see those things as much as I could see what I did “wrong”.  I have lived an amazing life even with all the chaos, challenges and struggles, but I am still smiling and shining brighter than I ever have!

Take some time my friends and think about your life.  Are you truly happy?  Are you living a joyous existence?  Are you happy with yourself inside and out?  Are you free and clear of the past or do you carry a bag full of regrets, mistakes, shame, guilt, disappointment?  Do you want to be free and feel proud of who you are and where you are?  Who cares how you came to be where you are ~ you are here now and you have the power to do, be and have everything you want!  So I say to you, OWN IT!  Make it yours!  Love yourself for it and let it go!  Be free my friends, be free!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be. – Cindy Ortiz

Live, Love & Breathe Life

Love & Light,

Cindy

 

Every Choice You Make Has An Outcome

17Every choice we make ends up somewhere.  It doesn’t matter what it is, there is always an outcome.  You may or may not see it or feel it, but it is there.  Even the littlest of choices such as the type of toilet paper you buy will have an outcome.  You will end up with a happy tush or an unhappy tush depending on the type of toilet paper you chose to buy.  If you choose to turn left instead of right this could cause you the opportunity to see the sunset and what a beautiful outcome that would be!  The choice I made today to paint my fingernails has a positive outcome because it makes me feel good.  The choice to drink more water will have the outcome of more trips to the bathroom along with helping to flush out toxins.

Taking Complete Responsibility for Your Life Changes Your Life

38Some choices we make, and will make, change our lives completely.  The choice to drink and drive could land you in prison because you crossed the yellow line and killed an entire family.  The choice to use drugs could cause you to lose everything including yourself.  The choice to text and drive could cause you to miss the stop light and drive head on into a tree, losing your life.  The choice to eat junk food could cause high cholesterol and eventually cause a heart attack.  The choice to go swimming in an unsafe body of water could cause you to drown.  The choice to lie to and cheat on your partner could cause the end of your relationship.

652The choices we make are just as important and vital to our well-being as the thoughts we think and the food we put in our bodies.  There is certainly nothing wrong with taking a little extra time to think through your choices.  Think about every possible outcome, good or bad, and then choose wisely.  We all think from time to time that “it won’t happen to me” but it does happen.  It happens all the time to people of all walks of life. 

Today I choose only that which is for my greater good and for that which is in line with and in tune with my Inner Life.  Today I choose to make choices that will enhance my life and bring me more joy, abundance, peace, love and true happiness!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be. – Cindy Ortiz

Live, Love & Breathe Life

Love & Light,

Cindy

Are Your Beliefs Creating Heartache and Unhappiness

11I was thinking today about how powerful our beliefs can be.  They can control how we perceive other people and the world we live in, influence our future, and affect our every day lives.  Beliefs can take us higher, make us happier, work for us, and keep us in tune with our Inner Life.  But, they can also take us lower, make us unhappy, work against us, and keep us out of tune with our Inner Life.  Obviously it is beneficial to have a positive set of beliefs ~ but what if we don’t.  What if our beliefs are creating heartache and unhappiness. 

22Let’s take for instance a person who doesn’t believe they are worthy of a good life.  A person who believes they are “less than” with no hope in sight.  Can you imagine the struggle he or she must go through each and every day?  Waking up every morning with a feeling of dread for the day to come. Looking in the mirror and feeling nothing good for themselves.  Desperately trying to fit in somewhere, anywhere, seeking the approval of anyone who will give it to them.  Jumping from one relationship to another in an effort to find some sense of self and worthiness.  In time losing the ability to maintain a job, a home, and even worse ~ losing the ability to maintain overall well-being, balance and stability, all the while trying to be happy in a world that is completely painted with unworthiness.  A person who truly believes they are unworthy could have everything they want handed to them on a silver platter and yet find a way to destroy it all. 

Trust Your Gut Instincts

19We tend to forget how powerful our beliefs can be.  Once you think it, and start to believe it, your energy changes.  It changes to the point of then attaching itself to its own likeness. Meaning, you will start attracting what you believe – good or bad. In simple words, a belief is merely a thought you keep thinking, which in time becomes a part of who you choose to be, because you believe it to be true.  Whatever it is you believe, positive or negative, will in fact come true. All beliefs will in fact manifest into and become a part of your life and of you.  Any and all beliefs can be changed, but it is up to you to change them. 

20If you want to know whether or not your beliefs are creating heartache and unhappiness, take some time and think of all the areas of your life in which you feel dissatisfaction.  Now, ask yourself what your beliefs are surrounding this area of your life.  If you are not happy with your weight, do you BELIEVE you are fat and will never lose the weight? If you live pay check to pay check, do you BELIEVE you will never be wealthy?  If you have unhealthy relationships, do you BELIEVE you will never find the right person? If you are unhappy with your job, do you BELIEVE you can’t have the career you desire?  If you spent the last ten years of your life in prison, do you BELIEVE you will never have a normal life?  These are all very important areas of your life to look at and to determine if the cause of your dissatisfaction is from the beliefs you hold about them.  

32Once you determine which beliefs are creating heartache and unhappiness, all you have to do is change them. Begin by thinking the exact opposite even if you don’t feel it to be true.  Think it all through the day. Believe you are losing weight and slender, believe you have the ability to make more money, believe the perfect healthy relationship is right around the corner, believe you can excel in any career you so choose, believe you can have a happy and satisfying life after prison.  I promise you, in due time, if you keep thinking a new belief it will in fact come true.  It has no choice.  The now positive belief will attach itself to its own likeness and manifest right before your very eyes.  All you have to do is to BELIEVE!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Live, Love & Breathe Life

Love & Light,

Cindy