The Gift of Self-Love

86To truly and fully love one’s self unconditionally is the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself but to others. When you live in and through love, you are living completely in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are. The love of self will radiate the pure nature of your true being.  It will, without effort, create life experiences that will bring you peace, appreciation, well-being, joy, happiness and abundance.

Every piece of our lives play out to the tune in which we created it ~ happy or unhappy ~ positive or negative ~ difficult or easy.  When you live in and through self-love, what do you think the outcome will be?  If you were able, and you are, to see and feel nothing but the love in you, about you, and around you, life would transform before your very eyes.  Feeding yourself love on a daily basis affects your body, mind and spirit bringing to you the natural flow of wellness, healing and positive energy.

The love of self does not always come easy especially for those who have difficulty appreciating and accepting their physical looks or forgiving themselves for their past mistakes. These two things alone can hinder one’s personal, mental and spiritual growth not to speak of creating a life that is filled with sadness, depression, dis-ease, guilt, regret, unhappiness and in some cases self-hatred.  For these and many more, they pay the consequences for the lack of self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and self-love.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  You always have a choice as to how you want to feel and how much love you want to give to yourself.  There is no one to blame but yourself.

371What most of us tend to forget is that we were created THROUGH LOVE and so WE ARE LOVE. This is a part of us that can NEVER be taken away.  It is the greater and most powerful part of who you really are!  You ARE and will ALWAYS be LOVE and LOVED – completely, wholly and unconditionally!

Starting the process of unconditional self-love can be daunting at first, but depending on where you are in your journey, it could come very naturally to you, just like riding a bike.  The first and most difficult thing I had to do was to come face to face with myself.  To take a long hard look at myself not only physically but also personally, mentally and spiritually.  I had to come to terms with the shape of my body and all of my past mistakes but once I made it over these hurdles, the rest fell easily and effortlessly into place.  You see, when you truly care about and love yourself the bad habits, unhealthy life styles, unfulfilling relationships, etc. slip away. They slip away because you know how they are going to make you feel and if they don’t make you feel anything by joy and happiness, why would you give them to yourself? 






283Truly caring for and loving yourself means making you and how you feel your #1 priority.  It means nurturing and caring for yourself as you would an infant.  It means giving to yourself, not just to others.  It means taking the time to appreciate who you are and how you look, knowing you are pure perfection.  When you make a mistake, and you will, take the time and effort to truly forgive yourself and allow yourself the freedom to move forward.  Self-love also means having self-compassion – be compassionate toward yourself instead of judgmental or critical.  Spend as much time as possible laughing and having fun!  Be patient and kind to yourself as we are all a work in progress.  Love yourself enough to be who you really want to be.  Follow your own heart.  Do what inspires you and enlightens you.  Surround yourself with people who make you feel alive and add to your experience, not take away from it.  Love yourself from the inside out.  If you create from love, it will never go wrong!  Most importantly, love yourself for exactly who you once were, who you are today, and who you are becoming!

139If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

Cindy K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

The Inner Life Journey

Live Your Life Happily

53Living your life happily, in your own way, does not make you selfish, it makes you healthy.  Over the years I have been surprised at the number of people who live their lives through what others want, need or expect from them, not to speak of what they THINK someone wants, needs or expects.  They feel an innate obligation to do for others, in a way that ends up stealing their own happiness. 

Why do we do this?  We do it because we believe it is the right thing to do, but I have to ask, who is it right for?  It is not right for you if it causes you to complain or feel any level of negativity or unhappiness.  And it is not right for the other person because it takes away the opportunity for them to be their own true-self.

When you take on the wants, needs or expectations of others you are robbing yourself of your own “life force”, your connection to Source, which is in fact You.  You are robbing yourself of You because if it is making you unhappy you are not living through You, you are living through them.

55Living through You first produces genuine love and positive energy.  It is through this love and energy you will KNOW what is best for you and what is best for others without a shadow of a doubt. When you live through another, you actually hinder their growth because it does not allow them to take responsibility for their own happiness and you are then enabling their dependency upon you.  In the end this will drain you of all your vital necessities such as positive energy, love, compassion, forgiveness, well-being, peace and happiness. 

Whenever we do something from the feeling of obligation, (and yes, obligation is only a feeling) it does not come from a place of love it comes from a place of fear.  Fear that if you don’t do what this person wants, needs or expects, something bad will happen.  But as hard as it is to accept, you are not responsible for anyone else’s well-being or happiness!  If something “bad” happens as a result of your lack of attention to their happiness over your own, it is their fault because THEY allowed it to happen, not you.  They are the one’s who are in control over how they feel and how they choose to live.  They know what they need to do, and if they don’t, they know they can find the answers by doing research or asking for advice.  It is not up to you to make their life better or happier, but it is up to you to make your life the way you want it!

57The thing you have to remember is until you are comfortable in your own skin, being You, and putting your happiness above all else, you are going to continue to attract needy people who will make you feel as if you owe them something, when in fact you owe no one nothing, except yourself.  You owe it to yourself to be joyously happy under any and all circumstances and when you do this FIRST all the pieces fall happily in place.  What was once a feeling of obligation or responsibility is nothing short of genuine love and compassion for others.

Love & Light,


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