Their Path Is Not Wrong, It’s Just Theirs

08It hurts to see someone we love struggle with life especially when we know what it feels like.  One of the greatest things I have learned throughout my journey is that everyone is on their own unique path.  No matter where they are or what they are doing, their path is not wrong, it’s just theirs.  It’s theirs to do whatever they want to do with it – good or bad. 

When we see someone struggling, we sometimes have the tendency to step off our path and onto theirs.  In our effort to help, we put ourselves to the side, but in the end, it doesn’t help them and it doesn’t help us.  It doesn’t help them because eventually their path is not going to work for us so they will be left feeling abandoned and alone when we make the choice to go back to our own path.  It doesn’t help us because when we take the path of another we lose ourselves in the other person’s struggles which leads to becoming out of tune with our Inner Life.

96What I have discovered is that we can help others without stepping off our own path.  We can help by being an example of a positive life ~ a happy life.  We can encourage and support those around us without compromising our own happiness.  We share our own struggles of the past, giving them hope that they too can change their life. We lend guidance to show them that there is in fact a “better” way ~ a more fulfilling, abundant and joyful way of dealing with and overcoming life’s unwanted experiences. 

In trying to help those we love, or anyone for that matter, there is always a chance they will not be ready or willing to try another path.  For whatever reason, this too is okay.  There is no path that is wrong.  If the other person chooses to continue their struggle with no effort in changing things, it doesn’t mean your efforts have failed.  It just means they need to remain where they are even if they don’t know why. 

686It can be hard when someone chooses to stay where they are.  It’s hard because you know there is a happier way.  This is when you need to remain strong and you need to remain on your own path.  It is not a time to judge or criticize but to love unconditionally.  Accept them for who they are and where they are.  If their actions and behaviors are causing you pain, it may be time to walk away.  Rest assured, when the time comes, when they are ready to end their suffering, there is no doubt they will do whatever it takes to create a life more in tune with their true desires and dreams.  A life more in tune with their Inner Life, the greater part of who they truly are.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …

Love & Light,


Second Chances

605There may come a time in your life when you are “offered” a second chance.  A chance to become who you are truly meant to be.  Through whatever means this second chance has come into your life, start from where you are.  There is no need to go back and rehash what was done right or wrong or how you ended up where you are.  There is also no need to start worrying about the future; as to whether or not things will work out or get better. 

Too often we impair ourselves by believing we need to “clean up” the past, but this will only hinder where you want to go.  When you go back in time it pulls you away from your Inner Life, from who you really are, from the present moment.  It causes unnecessary pain because you remember how and why you lost your way in the first place.  If you stay focused on “what was” instead of “what is” it will slowly drain you of your happiness and self-worth.  

Second chances are not about righting your wrongs or proving your worth; they are about you and only you on a very deep and personal level.  They are about you becoming who you really are by YOUR choice, not through the circumstances of your outer life or other people.  This in itself will alleviate and fade out any pain and/or destruction that was created before this moment.

87If a second chance is really what you want and desire then allow your heart to lead the way.  Live within the boundaries of your Inner Life and trust your instincts.  You will know which way to go and what words to speak.  You will know what feels good and what doesn’t feel good.  And you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that all is well and all will be well.

All that really matters from this point forward is who you choose to be and how you choose to live your life.  You do not have to prove anything to anyone but instead love with all your heart and allow your Inner Life carry you to where you want to be.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,


Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

How Much Clutter Are You Holding Onto

75How does your life feel?  Does it feel light, bright and full of shine?  Or does it feel cluttered, heavy and dull? Maybe it is time to do some de-cluttering for a fresher and more airy environment.  Our lives are no different than our homes.  

Over the years we accumulate things we have brought in ourselves and things we have allowed others to bring in.  If you were to take an honest look at what you have accumulated, how much of it do you REALLY need and want?  How much of it would you like to live without?

The easiest way to determine what is cluttering your life is to ask yourself what is working for you and what isn’t.  What is causing you grief and what is bringing you joy.  What takes your breath away and what causes you not to be able to breathe.  These things could be anything from relationships dragging you down, a job you don’t like, or being unable to find that one pair of shoes because your closet is packed full of “stuff”.  It could also be things that others bring into your life such as negativity, drama, problems, etc.  You are not a dumping ground so why allow the trash.

70When you live a cluttered life it is hard to breathe.  You live your days as if you are walking in mud, taking step after step but not really getting anywhere.  This is because you have so much clutter weighing you down, holding you back, and keeping you in your outer life, when you need to be more in your Inner Life.

Clutter not only affects your spiritual and mental well-being but it also affects your physical well-being.  For when your life is cluttered with the unwanted it creates an imbalance in your life and that imbalance can create health issues.

Where to begin?  You begin by taking a good, long, honest look at your life.  Make a list of the people, places and things that make up your days on a regular basis.  Now, for each one of those people, places and things, write down how they make you feel.  If you want this to work, you are going to have to be honest.  I know this can be tough because you may come to realizations you have not wanted to face before, but I assure you, it will be OK.  

67Once you have determined who/what you want to remain in your life, start taking the necessary steps to move away from what you no longer need or want.  Start with something simple and/or one at a time if it is more comfortable for you.  Or if you just want to get it over with, de-clutter all at once…that’s what I did and boy oh boy what a relief it was!

They say that less is more and this I can attest to. For those who have actual clutter in the home, start there.  Go through all your things and determine what you really need.  If you haven’t used it in the last 6 months or it is sitting in the basement or in a closet, do you really need it?  Start getting rid of what you don’t use, need or want. Don’t just throw things away – if they are in good condition, do yourself and others a favor and take them to your local donation center.  Or, if you would like to make some extra money, have a yard sale or sell your items on E-Bay!  

66Once you have started the in-home de-clutter process, I can guarantee, you will start to feel so much better.  It is at this point you will naturally feel the need to de-clutter your life. Why?  Because when you give your home a new, fresh, light and airy environment you are not going to want to start cluttering it back up again whether it be with material clutter or life clutter!

De-cluttering your life to only include the people, places and things which bring you joy and happiness is one of the best things you can do for yourself and for those around you.  It will not only serve you better, but it clears the air, creates a fresher environment, and relieves stress, anxiety and dis-ease.  It also allows you to breathe, connect more fully to your Inner Life, and be who you were truly meant to be. Wouldn’t this type of life be better than one in which you are suffocating yourself from all that clutter? I would think so!

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Guidance Life Coach


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