Stop worrying about what is going on outside of you and start worrying about what is going on inside of you. So many humans live more in their outer lives than they do in their inner lives and then wonder why they never feel good or why things don’t work out for them. How you feel physically, mentally, and emotionally is a good indicator of what you are focusing on.
Think about all the things that cause you to feel hatred, anger, frustration, irritation, stress, anxiety, dis-ease, or sadness. Are any of them worth the price you pay? Are any of them worth giving up your happiness, peace and well-being for?
It goes without saying that if you want to make a difference, if you want things to change, start with yourself. When you start with yourself and make your happiness your #1 priority your life will begin to change. You will start to see all the good in the world instead of the bad. You will notice what is working instead of what isn’t working. You will soon find understanding and compassion in the people and things you once felt negativity toward. Your perception of life and how it is supposed to be will change as well, creating clarity, value and excitement towards what is still to come.
When you feel good and are happy it affects every area of your life including every person you come into contact with. You will be drawn to and attract the people and things that will enrich your life. Nothing or no one can change when approached with a negative state of mind. So do yourself a favor and focus on what is going on inside of you instead of what is going on outside of you. Make your inner life “right” first and then do what you can do to make your outer life “right”.
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach
When someone we love gets sick it is a natural reaction to want to help to make them better, but sometimes we can’t make them better. Sometimes we have to trust and rely upon their doctors to make the best decisions in the interest of healing our loved one. This can leave us feeling helpless to say the least as we stand by watching our loved one suffer. Without actually being sick ourselves we can’t know what the other person is going through. It is impossible. Everyone is different and everyone handles their illnesses in a manner they feel is best for them. They consult with the best doctors and choose the one with whom they feel the most comfortable. As a friend, family member or partner, we have to respect this. Just because we would do things differently doesn’t mean the other person should do it our way. Yes, I truly believe all options should be considered especially when dealing with our health and in certain circumstances, 2nd and 3rd opinions should not be overlooked.
There needs to be understanding; an understanding that many of us do not think about. The only person who truly knows your body is you. The only person who should make a decision regarding your body is you. If we try to force our own “methods” or doctors upon someone else and they go along with it for the sake of avoiding arguments or disagreements how can the process of healing be positive? We may be happy because our loved one is doing what we want them to do, but shouldn’t they be the one who is happy? Shouldn’t they be the one who is showered with love, compassion, understanding and support during this difficult and life changing experience? Shouldn’t we trust and respect what our loved one feels is best for them given the fact that only they know their body better than anyone else? I know it can be frustrating when we can’t help, but we are not the ones responsible for someone else’s healing. It is up to the person who is “sick” to heal themselves through whatever means they choose. Some may choose not to do anything at all and others will go over and above.
This is where great understanding comes in. Just as they don’t know what you are going through, you don’t know what they are going through. You don’t know what they are truly feeling deep inside and they don’t know what you are truly feeling deep inside unless you talk about it. Communication is the key to any relationship, especially during difficult times, but it is not about trying to get someone to do what you would do; it is about talking things through openly, lovingly and with great understanding. Finding “acceptance” not only in the illness but also in the choices that are being made will bring both of you peace. If you fight against either or it will only create more dis-ease, not only in the person who is ill but also in yourself.
The best thing you can do is to trust all is well, let go of trying to control something that is out of your control, offer your loving support whether you agree or not, and hold your loved one in the highest “light” possible. Don’t think of them as being sick, think of them as the radiant, healthy, loving human being they are! Not only will this help them to heal, but it will also help you to heal.
Love & Light,
Is there a problem you are facing today? One that makes you feel overwhelmed, stressed out, full of anxiety, sad or unhappy? Does it feel as though it is bigger than you? In a sense it is because you are allowing yourself to see it that way. You have expanded the size of it in your mind into this great big huge monster just waiting to take you down. It is as though you are looking at it through a magnifying glass believing it is just too much to handle.
Simply speaking, you are allowing this problem, which in fact lives in your outer life control you by blocking you from your Inner Life. It is taking you away from your healthy peace of mind and well-being because you carry it with you wherever you go. You wake up with it and you go to bed with it all the while allowing it to rip you to pieces, denying you the happiness that lives inside you.
When we give into our fears our problems multiply because our focus is solely on what is going “wrong”. There is nothing that cannot be resolved one way or another. So instead of allowing this negative force take you away from what really matters, change your perspective of it, change your beliefs about it, or come into acceptance of it. When you do one or all of these things you will soon see how easy it is to diminish the problem monster and return to your natural state of being – Happiness!
Love & Light,
Cindy Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach
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