The Gift of Self-Love

86To truly and fully love one’s self unconditionally is the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself but to others. When you live in and through love, you are living completely in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are. The love of self will radiate the pure nature of your true being.  It will, without effort, create life experiences that will bring you peace, appreciation, well-being, joy, happiness and abundance.

Every piece of our lives play out to the tune in which we created it ~ happy or unhappy ~ positive or negative ~ difficult or easy.  When you live in and through self-love, what do you think the outcome will be?  If you were able, and you are, to see and feel nothing but the love in you, about you, and around you, life would transform before your very eyes.  Feeding yourself love on a daily basis affects your body, mind and spirit bringing to you the natural flow of wellness, healing and positive energy.

The love of self does not always come easy especially for those who have difficulty appreciating and accepting their physical looks or forgiving themselves for their past mistakes. These two things alone can hinder one’s personal, mental and spiritual growth not to speak of creating a life that is filled with sadness, depression, dis-ease, guilt, regret, unhappiness and in some cases self-hatred.  For these and many more, they pay the consequences for the lack of self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and self-love.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  You always have a choice as to how you want to feel and how much love you want to give to yourself.  There is no one to blame but yourself.

371What most of us tend to forget is that we were created THROUGH LOVE and so WE ARE LOVE. This is a part of us that can NEVER be taken away.  It is the greater and most powerful part of who you really are!  You ARE and will ALWAYS be LOVE and LOVED – completely, wholly and unconditionally!

Starting the process of unconditional self-love can be daunting at first, but depending on where you are in your journey, it could come very naturally to you, just like riding a bike.  The first and most difficult thing I had to do was to come face to face with myself.  To take a long hard look at myself not only physically but also personally, mentally and spiritually.  I had to come to terms with the shape of my body and all of my past mistakes but once I made it over these hurdles, the rest fell easily and effortlessly into place.  You see, when you truly care about and love yourself the bad habits, unhealthy life styles, unfulfilling relationships, etc. slip away. They slip away because you know how they are going to make you feel and if they don’t make you feel anything by joy and happiness, why would you give them to yourself? 






283Truly caring for and loving yourself means making you and how you feel your #1 priority.  It means nurturing and caring for yourself as you would an infant.  It means giving to yourself, not just to others.  It means taking the time to appreciate who you are and how you look, knowing you are pure perfection.  When you make a mistake, and you will, take the time and effort to truly forgive yourself and allow yourself the freedom to move forward.  Self-love also means having self-compassion – be compassionate toward yourself instead of judgmental or critical.  Spend as much time as possible laughing and having fun!  Be patient and kind to yourself as we are all a work in progress.  Love yourself enough to be who you really want to be.  Follow your own heart.  Do what inspires you and enlightens you.  Surround yourself with people who make you feel alive and add to your experience, not take away from it.  Love yourself from the inside out.  If you create from love, it will never go wrong!  Most importantly, love yourself for exactly who you once were, who you are today, and who you are becoming!

139If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

Cindy K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

The Inner Life Journey

Now Is the Time To Get Unstuck

53Are you stuck; unable to move forward in any or all areas of your life?  Do you feel weary; your feet heavy as if you are wearing concrete shoes?  You walk 100 miles and yet you are still standing where you started.  If so, it is time to get unstuck; to take control of your life and your own happiness!

Getting unstuck is easier than you think.  Don’t let fear hold you back, for there is nothing to fear.  All you have to do is accept things as they are.  In other words, stop fighting against that which you do not want.  The more you fight against it, the more of it you are going to get.  Acceptance does not mean staying where you are; it simple means to go with the flow; to be “fluid” in your life while you do what you need to do to get to where you want.

When things are not working for us we try to make them better one way or another.  When that effort fails we may take a step or two backward, giving up a little hope, but once our motivation returns, we try again.  The problem is, is that we try the same thing over and over again expecting different results.  We think if we do it “better” this time it will work, but to no avail.  Our lives end up feeling like a Merry-Go-Round.  We are excited about the ride yet we keep going in circles.  Eventually the excitement dies and before you know it five, ten or twenty years have passed and you are no closer to your dreams or being truly happy.

Albert Einstein once said “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Einstein – His Life and Universe by Walter Isaacson

So, how insane are you?  Isn’t it time to jump off the Merry-Go-Round and get on a new ride?  Isn’t it time to take a leap of faith into the unfamiliar or the unknown?  In reality, when you sit down and really think about it, what is there to be afraid of?  If you need to make some changes to what you are doing or not doing, then make them.  If it is your thought patterns holding you back, then start thinking more positive thoughts and focusing your attention on what you do want even if it is not in your life experience yet.  Once your focus is turned to what you do want – it will show up; it has no choice! 

61You are the only one who knows what is holding you back and for those of you who want to blame someone else; the only person to blame is yourself.  You are the only one who can get yourself unstuck.  Are you ready to take the first step?  If so, then stop those things that you are doing that are making you stuck.  Release yourself from all resistance; surrender with joy and anticipation of what is to come!  And remember….you are the one who creates your reality, so what is it going to be?

Love & Light,


** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I am currently offering e-coaching (e-mail).  Please visit for more information or to contact me.  I’d love to hear from you!

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