The Next Chapter, Turn the Page

727It’s hard to imagine the next chapter in your life when you have been captured by what you believe to be your only reality. Things are not going the way you want them to, you don’t have the things you want, you are struggling financially, you feel as though life has turned you inside out, and now you can’t see past the next day, let alone the next minute. You are sad, depressed, unhappy, stressed, frustrated and angry. You try to feel better but you can barely make it to the front door. Your thoughts are consumed with negativity and hopelessness. The light you once followed has burned out with no other light in sight.

How often do you think, “I don’t want to be where I am”? How does it feel when you are not where you want to be or have what you want to have? Do you believe things can change? Do you believe you are the one who has the power to make everything change?

Without realizing it, we can so easily make things worse by fighting against our current life circumstances. We keep our focus in and on our outer life instead of turning inward to our Inner Life, the greater and more powerful part of who we truly are. Turning inward may not change your circumstances overnight but it will bring you peace. That is what you need right now is peace. Making peace with your life as it is doesn’t mean throwing in the towel or staying where you are ~ it means embracing and surrendering to what is so you can naturally move forward toward well-being, abundance, love, joy, and true happiness.

02Think of it this way, when things aren’t going the way you want them to, you push against them, you push against life. It’s like a constant battle in your head, a complete never-ending negative dialogue of how much you hate where you are, screaming for a way out. Is it not? Isn’t it a horrible feeling? Eventually that dialogue will make its way down through your body creating all sorts aches, pains, dis-ease, and illness. Is that really what you want and how you want to live your life?

I have been where you are. I have lived through my outer life only to find myself drenched in unhappiness, depression, anxiety, destructive behavior patterns and no hope of anything changing. Looking back, it’s hard to believe I lived this way for so many years, but I didn’t know I was the one in control. I didn’t know I was the one making life so unsatisfying and miserable. I thought and assumed it was life itself giving me all these thing. I hated it ~ I hated the way I felt. The sadness, pain, guilt, and shame. I just wanted out. Out of my mind, out of my body, and out of my life. All I wanted was to be happy but I did not know how. I had no clue where to start or what to do, so I started right where I was. I started in the exact place I didn’t want to be. My DESIRE to be truly happy is all it took to take the first step out of the life I wanted to leave behind and into the life I was about to create!

01Yes, it probably sounds easier said than done, but then again, maybe not. If the desire is there, anything is possible. For me, the majority of the changes I made were pretty simple, but they did take courage, faith, surrender, trust, acceptance, self-love, and devotion. This may sound like a large order to fill, but it’s not when you have desire. Please trust me when I say to you, where you are, how you are living, how you are feeling is NOT your only reality. It is just the reality you are choosing right now.  NOW is the time for the next chapter, so turn the page. Take a deep breath, know all is well, and don’t give up.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be. – Cindy Ortiz

Live, Love & Breathe Life ~

Love & Light,

Cindy

Do Your Words Enhance Your Joy & Happiness

24Have you ever thought about how your words affect your health, happiness and overall well-being?  Think about it for a moment ~ how you express yourself is no different than the food you put into your body.  It will either make you feel better or it will make you feel worse.  Words could very easily be just words, but rarely they are.  They are always tied to a positive or negative feeling.  It is those feelings that will, in the end, contribute to the creation of your own reality, all inclusively. 

A good example would be when you are driving.  How often do you find yourself using choice words toward another driver for one reason or another?  How does this make YOU feel?  When you express your anger or frustration toward another driver, even when they can’t hear you, it not only fills YOU up with negative energy, but it sends negative energy out into the Universe.  So what does the Universe do?  It gives you what you send out ~ like attracts like….and you wonder why you keep having bad experiences on the roadway!  Choice words are not spoken from your Inner Life, they are spoken from a place within your outer life.  A place that does not know peace or well-being at that moment in time.  

23When I made the choice to be happy no matter what, I also had to learn how to relax a lot more and to go with the flow.  This means allowing the uncontrollable to just do its thing.  To not get upset at the things someone else does that could easily cause me to feel irritated, frustrated or angry.  Allowing negative feelings in this manner is no different than giving power to the other person.  Why would I want to allow someone else’s actions to affect how I feel?  And in that, the uncontrollable now becomes controllable!  It can be difficult to “practice” peace in certain situations, but it is not impossible.  It all depends on what you want out of life and how you want to feel.

Think about how much your life would change if the ONLY words you ever spoke were words that enhanced your joy and happiness.  Not only would you feel better, but your health would improve, you would be more prosperous and abundant, and you would know peace, joy and true happiness.  So, the next time you find yourself wanting to use choice words, just remember what those words will do to you as they course through every part of your body, mind and spirit.  Choose joy and happiness, you can’t go wrong!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …

Love & Light,

Cindy

Their Path Is Not Wrong, It’s Just Theirs

08It hurts to see someone we love struggle with life especially when we know what it feels like.  One of the greatest things I have learned throughout my journey is that everyone is on their own unique path.  No matter where they are or what they are doing, their path is not wrong, it’s just theirs.  It’s theirs to do whatever they want to do with it – good or bad. 

When we see someone struggling, we sometimes have the tendency to step off our path and onto theirs.  In our effort to help, we put ourselves to the side, but in the end, it doesn’t help them and it doesn’t help us.  It doesn’t help them because eventually their path is not going to work for us so they will be left feeling abandoned and alone when we make the choice to go back to our own path.  It doesn’t help us because when we take the path of another we lose ourselves in the other person’s struggles which leads to becoming out of tune with our Inner Life.

96What I have discovered is that we can help others without stepping off our own path.  We can help by being an example of a positive life ~ a happy life.  We can encourage and support those around us without compromising our own happiness.  We share our own struggles of the past, giving them hope that they too can change their life. We lend guidance to show them that there is in fact a “better” way ~ a more fulfilling, abundant and joyful way of dealing with and overcoming life’s unwanted experiences. 

In trying to help those we love, or anyone for that matter, there is always a chance they will not be ready or willing to try another path.  For whatever reason, this too is okay.  There is no path that is wrong.  If the other person chooses to continue their struggle with no effort in changing things, it doesn’t mean your efforts have failed.  It just means they need to remain where they are even if they don’t know why. 

686It can be hard when someone chooses to stay where they are.  It’s hard because you know there is a happier way.  This is when you need to remain strong and you need to remain on your own path.  It is not a time to judge or criticize but to love unconditionally.  Accept them for who they are and where they are.  If their actions and behaviors are causing you pain, it may be time to walk away.  Rest assured, when the time comes, when they are ready to end their suffering, there is no doubt they will do whatever it takes to create a life more in tune with their true desires and dreams.  A life more in tune with their Inner Life, the greater part of who they truly are.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …

Love & Light,

Cindy