Letting Go of Emotional Pain

03The mind creates emotional pain through the thoughts it thinks.  These thoughts come from your resistance to “what is”.  The more intense your pain, the more you are resisting the present moment.  Never will you find emotional pain in the present moment.  In reality the pain you are suffering is just an illusion created by the mind.  However, because many of us allow our minds to control our emotions we live with this unnecessary pain.  This is the same as living outside your-self; outside the present moment.

You are and will always be the present moment, but you may not always be in tune with it.  The present moment is where your connection to your inner-being and to the Universe is.  It is where your power lies; the power to create a joyful life experience.  We are all One with the Universe.

When you go against life, resisting what is, you are living in the past or future.  Your mind is feeding off experiences that do not exist.  Let’s say for example your relationship ends.  The only way you are going to feel emotional pain from this experience is from thinking thoughts related to your now PAST relationship.  Essentially, you are going against what is.  You are going against what your life is right NOW.  You are not accepting your life as it is in this moment.  This of course creates the negative emotions you feel which in turn creates the pain.  Of course you may feel “sorrow” for this loss but it does not have to control your life.

Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hahn

The Dalai Lama’s Little Book of Inner Peace by the Dalai Lama

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Living in the present moment means to be in control of your mind.  Pay attention to what you are thinking and where those thoughts take you.  Look out for triggers that may send you leaping into the past or future.  The moment a negative emotion arises you know your mind is trying to take you out of the Now.  The easiest way to re-focus is to become aware of where you are right now.  Pull yourself back into your body so to speak, leaving the mind behind.  The more you empty your mind, the more peace, joy, well-being and love will become your experience.

Water Red HeartLetting go of what was or what could be for what is will free you completely.  It allows you to stay focused in the present moment releasing you from the bonds of any moment that is not this moment.  This in itself will relieve your emotional pain.

Love & Light,

Cindy

** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I offer e-coaching (e-mail) and phone coaching.  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information, to contact me with questions or to schedule a session.  I’d love to hear from you!

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Lacking Belief in Yourself

10Believing in yourself will make you feel confident, self-assured and worthy.  You will stand up for what you believe in, acknowledge your accomplishments, and take pride in your work and efforts. Although things may not always go the way you want them to, you recognize that you did your best and you keep on trying.  You do not acknowledge “failure” as a negative but as a stepping stone toward something better.  You have faith and trust that all is well and great things are yet to come.  You are authentic in who you are and treat yourself with respect.  You nurture and care for your physical, mental and spiritual well-being. Your internal focus and thoughts are always on the positive aspects of life and of who you truly are.

If you live with disbelief in yourself, it can lead to a very self-destructive life style.  You will be filled with self-doubt, inherit self-sabotaging behaviors, call yourself names, criticize everything you do or don’t do, and question your worthiness.  You treat yourself the same way an abusive partner would treat you.  Eventually you grow to be detached from the world and live with self-hatred.  You no longer care about who you are or what you are doing.  You allow negativity to control you creating mental and physical health issues.

Living with this type of disbelief comes from only one place and that is the past.  Somewhere along the line you attached yourself to negative belief patterns that you play over and over in your head.  Your awareness of these belief patterns may not always be in the forefront but they are there just waiting for something or someone to trigger them.  Once they are triggered your self-worth drops ten stories and you are left standing in a pool of self-doubt.  Before you know it, you are living in your past and you have left your true-self behind.

46The best way to conquer these negative belief patterns is to nip them in the bud as soon as they arise.  How will you know they have risen before it is too late?  You will know by how you feel.  As soon as you start to feel “bad”, take note of what you are thinking.  Be consciously aware of what words are playing in your mind.  Once you are aware of what you are thinking, you are now in control because you have the power to stop it.  You have the power to change your beliefs. 

A belief is ONLY a thought that you keep thinking.  Take the time to replace ALL negative beliefs and thought patterns with positive ones.  It does not matter if you believe what you are now telling yourself.  Eventually your mind will reprogram itself to believe the “new” thoughts and so will you!  This process will also keep you in the present moment and that is where you want to be.  There is never any negativity when you are focused in the present moment.  The past and future do not exist in the present moment so there will never be disbelief or self-doubt in yourself!  So where would you like to be ~ in the past disbelieving in yourself or in the present moment believing completely in yourself?!

Love & Light,

Cindy

** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I offer e-coaching (e-mail) and phone coaching.  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information or to contact me.  I’d love to hear from you!

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When Life Feels Crappy

16A crappy life begins with you.  You are the one who controls how you feel which in turn controls how your life is going to feel to you.  Let’s say your week starts out on the wrong foot.  You reluctantly get up on a Monday morning, head into work and you are immediately overwhelmed with work.  You become frustrated, irritated and just want to go home.  The longer you hold onto these negative feelings the worse you are going to feel and the worse your day is going to be.  It is not Monday’s fault or the work’s fault making you feel this way; it is your fault.  Remember, you always have a choice.  You can continue to allow life’s little annoyances get you down or you can change your attitude about them.

What do you think will happen if you don’t let go of these negative feelings you are having on a Monday?  They are going to follow you through the rest of the week.  They are going to linger by your side like a displeasing odor that you can’t get rid of.  By the time Thursday hits you are done!  You have had it and now you just want Friday over with so you can start the weekend!  Counting back, how many days have you wasted feeling crappy?  Wouldn’t it have been nicer to change your attitude so that you could have enjoyed the rest of the week?

58Sometimes it is not even about a Monday or the mounds of work sitting on your desk.  Sometimes it is just about you being out of sync with you.  Whenever you feel any sort of negativity within yourself it is always because of one thing – you are not fully connected to your true-self (God, Source, Buddha, etc.) at that particular moment.  Perhaps you have been lacking in the self-care department, spending all your time doing for others instead of for yourself.  Maybe you did not feel like going to Church on Sunday and you are carrying that guilt around with you.  Or maybe you just need to give yourself a break, slow down and relax.  Whatever the reason, you can change how you feel just by changing how you are thinking.  Don’t dread having to go to work tomorrow, but find GRATITUDE for the job you have.  Those feelings of gratitude alone will almost immediately change the energy you are sending out and as you know, that will change the outcome of your day!

When life starts to feel crappy, take control of it – don’t let it keep control of you!  Turn that crappy day into a happy day!!!! 

Love & Light,

Cindy

** I am a Personal Development Life Coach!  I work with people who want to better themselves, their lives, their relationships and or who just want to be happy!  If you do not live in the area, no worries!  I offer e-coaching (e-mail) and phone coaching.  Please visit www.cindy-ortiz.com for more information or to contact me.  I’d love to hear from you!
 

 

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