Have you ever asked yourself why you expect so much from others? Far too many people expect others to be, act or behave as they would but why. Does it make you feel better in the knowing that others are just like you? Does it make you feel like you are in control? Or does it come from how others in your life hold expectations of you? More than likely it comes from believing that your way is the right way or the only way, but we know that’s not true. NOW is the time to cut ties to your expectations, to stop worrying about everyone else, and start worrying about yourself.
Of course it is reasonable to want others to treat you well and with respect. But then again, how can you have any expectations of others when everyone is different and especially when everyone is on their own unique path in THEIR life. Perhaps someone has not learned how to respect others because they were disrespected throughout their life. Or maybe someone grew up in a negative and hostile environment and doesn’t know how to be kind and loving. The only expectations there should be, are of yourself. When you expect only the best of and for yourself, only the best will show up in your life experience.
The one thing I believe we as humans forget is that we do not have to include anything or anyone in our lives if they do not make us feel good. How you choose to do things and live your life is totally about who YOU are. The way you do things is probably the “right” way in your mind, as it should be, because it is right for you. If people are not living the way you do or acting as you would, it doesn’t make them a bad person nor does it make their life “wrong”. They are being who THEY are the best they know how. Just because you want to share your candy doesn’t mean everyone else has to share theirs.
When you are in tune with your Inner Life there are no expectations because those things don’t matter any longer. What matters is love, compassion, well-being, peace, joy and happiness. What matters is giving without expecting anything in return. What matters is being who you are while allowing others to be who they are. TODAY, allow yourself the gift of cutting ties to your expectations and see how calming and peaceful life becomes.
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach