What Is Your Happiness

694Like you, I search the internet for useful information.  One thing I have taken notice to is how many “steps” there are to achieving happiness or anything else for that matter. I don’t know about you, but if I were to try to follow 10 – 30 steps of anything I’d be exhausted before I even got started!  Now don’t get me wrong, the information may be useful but it is all too overwhelming especially for someone who is trying to overcome a struggle or achieve a specific goal. I do understand wanting to share what “works” especially when the advice comes from personal experience, but what about making it simple.

We try to get the people in our lives to follow in our footsteps because what worked for us will most definitely work for them!  I am guilty of this myself when it comes to family and friends.  I think to myself “if only they would just do what I do, everything would be fine”. But this is not always the case because everyone, even if they have the same desires, are on their own unique path, at their own rate of speed, so how you get there should be entirely up to YOU.  Of course you can seek guidance from others but I think it is important for each and every one of us to seek what we desire in a way we so choose.  In a way that makes US feel good.  In a way that adds to who WE really are.  The “way” does not matter as long as it brings you joy and happiness.

??????????????????????Life is not meant to be a struggle, it is meant to be joyous and fun so let’s make it that way!  Think about the things that will make your own personal journey through life meaningful, happy and satisfying. Think of it in terms of who YOU are, of what YOU want, and leave the rest behind.  You are the only one who can live your life so don’t you want to live it in your own way; making your own choices?  Just because a million people read a certain book that changed their lives, doesn’t mean you have to read that book, nor does it mean it is going to change your life.  There is certainly nothing wrong with trying new things, spending time with different types of people, or exploring what life has to offer.  This is how we “find” ourselves, through the people, places and things we choose.

The way I found my own happiness was by moving 3,000 miles away from everyone and everything I ever knew.  This may seem dramatic to some, but it was what I needed to do in order to figure out who I was and what I wanted out of life.  I was unable to do this with the influences I had around me so when the opportunity struck, I took it in a heartbeat. Was it worth it?  Yes!  It most definitely was and still is!  I re-connected to who I truly am by completely changing my life and feeling my way through each and every day. Now I only do what makes me feel good inside which has allowed me to see the treasures that lie within.  I still do things I would not normally choose to do, but I do them because someone else wants to do them, and in sharing that experience with them, it makes me feel good.

781Instead of trying to follow everyone else’s steps, make your own. Focus on what YOUR happiness is and where it comes from and then build your life around those things.  As long as you allow yourself to be who you truly are, everything else will fall naturally into place.  You won’t need steps or lists or advice.  Perhaps a little guidance from time to time, but once you tap into your Inner Life you will have all you need.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Resistance Creates Unhappiness

86The mind can create unhappiness through the thoughts it thinks. If you didn’t think, you wouldn’t have unhappiness because you wouldn’t be thinking of those things that cause you to feel unhappy. Thoughts are what you think, not who you are. Resistance of what is, is your mind gone crazy because you are constantly thinking outside the present moment.

This unhappiness is initiated through your resistance to what you don’t want, so essentially you are fighting against an unwanted life experience. You think fighting against it will make it go away but it does just the opposite. Your resistance to that which you do not want will actually make it worse because resistance only creates negativity. If you were experiencing something you did want, there would be no resistance and therefore no negativity.

Resistance not only closes you off from the natural flow of life, but it causes you to be out of tune with your Inner Life, who you really are. In time, you will sense an imbalance in your physical, mental and spiritual health. The greater your resistance, the greater your imbalance, and therefore the greater your unhappiness.

77Resistance of the unwanted, being closed off from the natural flow of life, is the same as living outside the present moment. Many people fear and avoid the present moment because they believe all those unwanted things are in the present moment, but I assure you they are not. Living in the present moment does not magnify, intensify or multiply the unwanted, it dissolves it completely. Never will you find unhappiness in the present moment.

Why won’t you find unhappiness in the present moment? Unhappiness is only associated with your outer life, your past and/or your future. When you focus yourself into the present moment, allowing yourself to feel and live the fullness of who you really are, the things causing you to feel unhappy do not exist because they are not a part of your present moment experience. They are not a part of who you really are; of your Inner Life. Everything that happens, happens Now. Once it has happened it is no longer “active” unless you keep it active.

75I am certainly not saying you won’t ever experience sadness to some degree, but it won’t control you or your life. There will always be unwanted situations that will need your attention. This is a normal and unavoidable part of life. When the time comes to deal with it, do it mindfully and be fully present in doing so. This will keep you away from unnecessary worry, stress, anxiety and emotional pain. If there is something you need to come to terms with, particularly something that is unexpected ~ accept it, embrace it, and keep moving forward. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in something that is no longer a part of your true life experience. Playing it over and over again in your mind keeps you continually going through it. This in itself prolongs your emotional pain and significantly slows down the natural flow of your life because you are then fighting against what is.

In reality, the pain you are suffering from being unhappy is just an illusion created by the mind. It is not “real” because pain and unhappiness are not a part of who you really are. They don’t exist in your Inner life and they don’t exist in the present moment. Your Inner Life and the Present Moment are one in the same. They are states of Being, not a state of mind. However, because many of us allow our minds to control our emotions and our lives, we live with being unhappy.

64Accepting life and your life situation as it is does not mean staying where you are. It means accepting what is, as it is, in this moment. It means to stop fighting against what it is you don’t like or don’t want and go with the natural flow of what life is offering you. If you are not happy with what is, take the necessary steps to change it. The natural flow of life will always consist of contrast; those things we don’t want or like, but the amount of time we spend in the contrast is entirely up to us.

Living in the present moment and without resistance means to be in control of your mind. Pay attention to what you are thinking and where those thoughts take you. Look out for triggers that may send you leaping into the past or future. The moment a negative emotion arises you know your mind is trying to take you out of the Now. The easiest way to re-focus is to become aware of where you are right now through Inner Life breathing (Inner Life Breathing – Live, Love & Breathe Life). Pull yourself back into your body so to speak, leaving the mind behind. The more you empty your mind, the more peace, joy, well-being and love will become your life experience.

Letting go of what was or what could be for what is will free you completely. It allows you to stay focused in the present moment releasing you from the bonds of any moment that is not this moment. This in itself will relieve your emotional pain, resistance and unhappiness.

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Temporary Bouts of Unhappiness

104There will be times in your life when you experience bouts of unhappiness. These bouts are only temporary if you want them to be. They come from being out of tune with your Inner Life, with who you really are. Once you get back in tune your life will get back to where you want it to be, guaranteed.

There are, and will always be, certain life situations which will cause you to become out of tune with your Inner Life. They could range in intensity from something very mild to something as gut wrenching as the loss of a loved one. Regardless the intensity, when you remain within yourself through any unwanted life situation, the outcome ~ how it affects you ~ will be a positive one. Meaning, it won’t define who you are nor will it take anything away from you. In extreme situations there will be periods of emotional pain and sadness, but there will also be peace and well-being deep within which will be felt when you are in tune with your Inner Life.

99To live through your Inner Life is no different from living in the present moment because you are the present moment. You are here now and that is something that will never change. The present moment is full of positive energy, abundance, well-being, unconditional love, peace, joy and true happiness. It is a natural part of who you really are. You are never without it.

Your Inner Life does not know the past, future, stress, worry, anxiety, depression, dis-ease or lack. It is when we live outside ourselves, in our outer lives, that we suffer and live unhappy lives. The more consistently you live in the present moment, the more in tune you will be and the more your life will change. There is nothing complicated about it because it is your natural state of being.

103When faced with bouts of unhappiness, it is up to you as to how long you want to keep them alive. The most powerful “tool” I have found through my 25 years of experience and study is also a natural part of who you are. It is called breathing. Yes, that is it ~ plain and simple. Breathing my way back in tune with my Inner Life has been the easiest and most effective method I have ever tried and used. And trust me when I say I have tried everything under the sun!   Just follow the link below for Inner Life Breathing!

Inner Life Breathing – Live Love & Breathe Life

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach