Like you, I search the internet for useful information. One thing I have taken notice to is how many “steps” there are to achieving happiness or anything else for that matter. I don’t know about you, but if I were to try to follow 10 – 30 steps of anything I’d be exhausted before I even got started! Now don’t get me wrong, the information may be useful but it is all too overwhelming especially for someone who is trying to overcome a struggle or achieve a specific goal. I do understand wanting to share what “works” especially when the advice comes from personal experience, but what about making it simple.
We try to get the people in our lives to follow in our footsteps because what worked for us will most definitely work for them! I am guilty of this myself when it comes to family and friends. I think to myself “if only they would just do what I do, everything would be fine”. But this is not always the case because everyone, even if they have the same desires, are on their own unique path, at their own rate of speed, so how you get there should be entirely up to YOU. Of course you can seek guidance from others but I think it is important for each and every one of us to seek what we desire in a way we so choose. In a way that makes US feel good. In a way that adds to who WE really are. The “way” does not matter as long as it brings you joy and happiness.
Life is not meant to be a struggle, it is meant to be joyous and fun so let’s make it that way! Think about the things that will make your own personal journey through life meaningful, happy and satisfying. Think of it in terms of who YOU are, of what YOU want, and leave the rest behind. You are the only one who can live your life so don’t you want to live it in your own way; making your own choices? Just because a million people read a certain book that changed their lives, doesn’t mean you have to read that book, nor does it mean it is going to change your life. There is certainly nothing wrong with trying new things, spending time with different types of people, or exploring what life has to offer. This is how we “find” ourselves, through the people, places and things we choose.
The way I found my own happiness was by moving 3,000 miles away from everyone and everything I ever knew. This may seem dramatic to some, but it was what I needed to do in order to figure out who I was and what I wanted out of life. I was unable to do this with the influences I had around me so when the opportunity struck, I took it in a heartbeat. Was it worth it? Yes! It most definitely was and still is! I re-connected to who I truly am by completely changing my life and feeling my way through each and every day. Now I only do what makes me feel good inside which has allowed me to see the treasures that lie within. I still do things I would not normally choose to do, but I do them because someone else wants to do them, and in sharing that experience with them, it makes me feel good.
Instead of trying to follow everyone else’s steps, make your own. Focus on what YOUR happiness is and where it comes from and then build your life around those things. As long as you allow yourself to be who you truly are, everything else will fall naturally into place. You won’t need steps or lists or advice. Perhaps a little guidance from time to time, but once you tap into your Inner Life you will have all you need.
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach