Happiness or Unhappiness – It’s YOUR Choice

10A happy life starts with you, just as an unhappy life starts with you ~ no one else, just you.  You are the one who controls how you feel about anything and everything, which in turn controls how life is going to feel to you.  Let’s say you are having a bad day.  From the moment your feet hit the floor nothing seems to go the way you want it to.  You are faced with one unwanted situation after another and before you know it you are caught up in a tunnel of frustration, irritation, stress, anxiety, negativity and maybe even anger. 

If you keep living and re-living where you don’t want to be you will make it more difficult to get to where you do want to be.  Before you know it, days, weeks, if not months or years have passed and you are still carrying around the unwanted as if it were your best friend.  But remember, you always have a choice.  You can choose to be happy no matter what, or you can choose to be unhappy and miserable.  The longer you hold onto the unwanted, the worse you are going to feel.  You can continue to allow life’s unwanted “annoyances” get you down or you can change your thoughts and attitude about them.

04We are always going to be faced with unwanted things because it is the natural cycle of life.  To know darkness you have to know light.  To know what you want you have to know what you don’t want.  However, the degree, intensity, and time you experience it is totally up to you.  You can allow it to change your life for the worse or you can allow it to open up many more wonderful possibilities. The last thing you want to do is to fight against the unwanted.  And yes, sometimes it is easier said than done but what you have to ask yourself, even in the midst of chaos, is how you want to feel.  Do you want this thing that is causing you to feel less than joyful and happy, perhaps even stressed, worried, or full of fear, have control of you? Do you want this thing to be the decision maker in how your life is going to turn out?  No, of course you don’t.  So what are you going to do about it?  You are going to embrace it for what it is, let go of your attachment to what was, do what you have to do, and keep moving forward with a positive and optimistic attitude.  The world is your oyster if you allow it to be.

03Another thing to think about is this ~ why do we allow what we don’t like affect us in a negative way ~ meaning, why do we choose to be unhappy when we know it is our happiness and joy that is going to carry us to where we want to be!  Feeling good is the golden key to the Universe.  It is the key to all your dreams and desires.  Take it from someone who knows.  I spent the good portion of 20 years being unhappy but when I made the decision to live through my Inner Life and be happy no matter what, my life changed for the better.  And the amazing part of it, is that it keeps changing for the better.  You will grow, expand, get what you want, and become a deliberate creator……if you would just give to yourself first.  Don’t sit around waiting for something or someone to make  you feel better, just feel better ~ be happy ~ be joyful ~ be loving ~ be kind~ be playful ~ be excited ~ just for the sake of being happy, joyful, loving, kind, playful and excited!  The more you feel good the faster things are going to change.  It is not directly what you do that is going to change things, it is HOW YOU FEEL!  The Universe “reads” your vibration, so whatever you are putting out, you are going to get back, no questions asked!  A happy life starts with you!

rp_03-300x168.jpgLove & Light,

Cindy

Letting Go of Emotional Wounds

377There are no emotional wounds that are unable to be healed.  If your wounds are not healed or are not healing as fast as you would like, it is through no fault but of your own.  We are the ones who are in control of our healing.  We are the ones who control how our wounds affects us.  And if you want to take it one step further, we are the ones who turn something into a wound.  Yes, we all have them, and there may be more to come, but it is up to us as to how they play out in our lives.  We can allow them to control and destroy our well-being, sense of peace, and happiness or we can learn and grow from them.  We can turn them into something positive even if it means just accepting them for what they are until we are able to see the light they hold.  So if you live with old or new wounds and they cause you to feel anything less than joy or happiness, isn’t it time to let them go? Isn’t it time to return to the present moment, get back in tune with your Inner Life, release the past, and give yourself some room to breathe again?

Love & Light,

Cindy

The Twists and Turns of Trust

09What is it about trust that gets us so tied up in knots?  I know I have had my share of trust issues, a few of which I still need to lay to rest.  However, life has become easier and more peaceful since I came to the realization of what trust issues really are and where they come from. 

In simple terms, trust issues are evil monsters that control us because we allow them to.  We allow them to run amuck 24/7 not giving ourselves a fighting chance to let go and move on.  They are the little mind monsters that remind you over and over again how someone hurt you, lied to you, left you, or cheated on you. 

Now, in reality trust issues are merely negative thoughts that cause us to become out of tune with our Inner Life, the greater and more powerful part of who we are.  The part of us that does not know negative energy such as trust issues, but only knows positive energy such as peace, well-being, abundance and unconditional love.

106These thoughts, as I am sure you already know, stem only from a PAST experience you choose to hold onto.  Yet, the past no longer exists so how can trust issues exist?  They exist because we give them the power to exist ~ but why?  I have asked myself this question over and over again and still can’t come up with a sane answer. 

Allowing trust issues into our lives robs us of our present moment life experiences so much so that it becomes torturous for some because they can’t let them go.  They can’t move out of the past and into the present so they end up getting stuck in a vicious cycle of negativity.  Nothing feels good when you can’t trust others, yourself included, not to speak of the Universe or God.

Trust issues grow through our OUTER life experiences.  This includes any and all relationships, even the one we have with ourselves.  Yes, some suffer from not trusting themselves to make the “right” choices and decisions and therefore creating a stress filled and unpleasant life.  Trust issues can also grow from someone else’s life experience such as death.  For example, if you lost your parents at a young age, it may have caused you to lose trust in the Universe or God.  You may think losing your parents was unfair making the Universe or God unfair, and therefore untrustworthy.  Or, if you suffered a traumatic childhood experience, you could have lost your trust in the Universe or God for not protecting you.

01Another reason so many suffer from trust issues is because of the label they give the experience that caused them not to trust.  We all label our unwanted experiences as something bad, something that hurt us, something that caused us to feel pain.  But what we tend to forget is that we have a choice as to how we feel.  We are the ones who choose to feel negative emotion and therefore choose not to trust anyone ever again.  Sounds kind of silly doesn’t it ~ that even one experience can be carried forward so much so that it affects every relationship we have from that point on.  WOW!  That’s a lot of untrusting going on isn’t it?

I am certainly not saying feeling some level of negative emotion is unwarranted, because it is warranted.  It is a natural human reaction to feel pain when someone hurts us.  What you choose to do with that pain is what is important.  If you allow it to take you down, ruin the rest of your life, and cause you never to trust anyone or anything again, well, you are in for a pretty unhappy and probably depressing life. 

58However, what if you were to put a positive spin on these experiences?  What if you were to be thankful for the experience, allowing it to guide you to a more positive place in your life.  A place where you can truly see and acknowledge that what another person does or says is not against you, it is against them.  It is who they are, not who you are.  What if you used it as an opportunity to step up to yourself, to build on your own worth, and to know without a shadow of a doubt that it wasn’t personal.  Wouldn’t that help ease the pain?  Yes, it may still hurt and that’s okay.  Just don’t let it take control of you.  If someone chooses to live a dishonest life, it’s all on them.  It is their “out of tune-ment” with their Inner Life which will eventually cause them all sorts of unwanted life experiences.

62Now, should you find yourself wrapped up in relationships that only cause you pain and distrust, it can only mean one thing.  You are still living in the past.  You are still emitting negative energy that screams “I can’t trust anyone”!  The more you focus on not being able to trust, the more people and things you can’t trust will come into your life experience.  It’s the law of attraction and there is no way around it.  What you put out, you get back, no questions asked.  What you want to do is focus on the type of relationship you desire leaving the trust issues out of it.  This will change the type of energy you are emitting and therefore attract positive and healthy relationships.

The twists and turns of trust are never in the Now.  They are never in your present life experience because they are never and will never be a part of your Inner Life.  The present moment is nothing but pure positive loving energy and your Inner Life is the present moment.  So, when you find yourself, and you will from time to time, tangled up in the twists and turns of trust issues, hit pause, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and focus on the present moment.  Feel the movement of your breath in and through your body…….you are here now, not there then.  Take some time to observe where your thoughts are and then bring yourself back to your Inner Life focusing on the things you know will make you feel good.  The more you practice living through your Inner Life versus your outer life, the faster your past experiences will fade, leaving your trust issues in the wind.

Love & Light,

Cindy