Cutting Ties to Your Expectations

Have you ever asked yourself why you expect so much from others? Far too many people expect others to be, act or behave as they would but why. Does it make you feel better in the knowing that others are just like you? Does it make you feel like you are in control? Or does it come from how others in your life hold expectations of you? More than likely it comes from believing that your way is the right way or the only way, but we know that’s not true. NOW is the time to cut ties to your expectations, to stop worrying about everyone else, and start worrying about yourself.

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Of course it is reasonable to want others to treat you well and with respect. But then again, how can you have any expectations of others when everyone is different and especially when everyone is on their own unique path in THEIR life. Perhaps someone has not learned how to respect others because they were disrespected throughout their life. Or maybe someone grew up in a negative and hostile environment and doesn’t know how to be kind and loving. The only expectations there should be, are of yourself. When you expect only the best of and for yourself, only the best will show up in your life experience.

The one thing I believe we as humans forget is that we do not have to include anything or anyone in our lives if they do not make us feel good. How you choose to do things and live your life is totally about who YOU are. The way you do things is probably the “right” way in your mind, as it should be, because it is right for you. If people are not living the way you do or acting as you would, it doesn’t make them a bad person nor does it make their life “wrong”. They are being who THEY are the best they know how. Just because you want to share your candy doesn’t mean everyone else has to share theirs.

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When you are in tune with your Inner Life there are no expectations because those things don’t matter any longer. What matters is love, compassion, well-being, peace, joy and happiness. What matters is giving without expecting anything in return. What matters is being who you are while allowing others to be who they are. TODAY, allow yourself the gift of cutting ties to your expectations and see how calming and peaceful life becomes.

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If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be…… 

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

How Much Does Your Life Weigh?

What is life weight?  Life weight is what you carry around with you on a day-to-day basis that you do not need.  Two of the heaviest pieces of weight we carry with us is past and future weight. We clog ourselves up with negative events from the past and worries about the future not realizing how much damage it is doing to our bodies and minds. This type of life weight will cause you to be out of tune with your Inner Life creating stress, anxiety, depression, weight problems, addictions, frustration, anger, fear and/or disease.

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The only weight you should be concerned about at any given moment in time is the weight you need right NOW. Surprisingly enough the weight you need right now does not exist. There is no life weight when you live in the here and now because there is nothing in the present moment to weigh you down.  Why is this?  Because nothing from the past or future ever exists when you are focused and living in the present moment!  

Let’s say for example that someone hurt you many years ago and yet you still hold onto the pain.  You avoid getting close to anyone in fear of being hurt again.  You have lost your confidence and you have no trust when it comes to relationships.  Do you need this memory and the pain in order to live?  No, of course not.  So why do you allow it to weigh you down?  Why do you allow it to control you?  If you were to lose the weight of this past event, how do you think you would feel?  Yes, you would feel relief and you would feel good again not only about yourself but about the possibility of future relationships.  

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If you would like to figure out how much your life weighs take out several pieces of paper and write down all the negative past events that you think about on a regular basis.  Write down every future worry you have.  Now take some time to read and re-read your lists and then ask yourself, being totally honest, how much of this stuff do I need RIGHT NOW?  I can guarantee you won’t need any of it and you won’t stop breathing from the lack of it.  In fact, you will probably begin to breathe easier, feeling lighter and lighter as you get rid of each and every piece of weight.

Each day when you wake up, take a few minutes before getting out of bed to remind yourself that you do not need all of your life’s weight in order to survive.  So before your feet hit the floor, leave them all behind and start your day off with a very deep breath of relief knowing there will be nothing weighing you down today! All you need is you in the present moment so don’t waste another minute of your life!

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If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be…
Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

A Happy Life Starts With You

616A happy life starts with you, just as an unhappy life starts with you ~ no one else, just you.  You are the one who controls how you feel about anything and everything, which in turn controls how life is going to feel to you.  Let’s say you are having a bad day.  From the moment your feet hit the floor nothing seems to go the way you want it to.  You are faced with one unwanted situation after another and before you know it you are caught up in a tunnel of frustration, irritation, stress, anxiety, negativity and maybe even anger. 

If you keep living and re-living where you don’t want to be you will make it more difficult to get to where you do want to be.  Before you know it, days, weeks, if not months or years have passed and you are still carrying around the unwanted as if it were your best friend.  But remember, you always have a choice.  You can choose to be happy no matter what, or you can choose to be unhappy and miserable.  The longer you hold onto the unwanted, the worse you are going to feel.  You can continue to allow life’s unwanted “annoyances” get you down or you can change your thoughts and attitude about them.

617We are always going to be faced with unwanted things because it is the natural cycle of life.  To know darkness you have to know light.  To know what you want you have to know what you don’t want.  However, the degree, intensity, and time you experience it is totally up to you.  You can allow it to change your life for the worse or you can allow it to open up many more wonderful possibilities.

The last thing you want to do is to fight against the unwanted.  And yes, sometimes it is easier said than done but what you have to ask yourself, even in the midst of chaos, is how you want to feel.  Do you want this thing that is causing you to feel less than joyful and happy, perhaps even stressed, worried, or full of fear, have control of you? Do you want this thing to be the decision maker in how your life is going to turn out?  No, of course you don’t.  So what are you going to do about it?  You are going to embrace it for what it is, let go of your attachment to what was, do what you have to do, and keep moving forward with a positive and optimistic attitude.  The world is your oyster if you allow it to be.

09Another thing to think about is this ~ why do we allow what we don’t like affect us in a negative way ~ meaning, why do we choose to be unhappy when we know it is our happiness and joy that is going to carry us to where we want to be!  Feeling good is the golden key to the Universe.  It is the key to all your dreams and desires.  Take it from someone who knows.  I spent the good portion of 20 years being unhappy but when I made the decision to live through my Inner Life and be happy no matter what, my life changed for the better.  And the amazing part of it, is that it keeps getting better and better.  You will grow, expand, get what you want, and become a deliberate creator….if you would just give to yourself first.  Don’t sit around waiting for something or someone to make  you feel better, just feel better ~ be happy ~ be joyful ~ be loving ~ be kind~ be playful ~ be excited ~ just for the sake of being happy, joyful, loving, kind, playful and excited!  The more you feel good the faster things are going to change.  It is not directly what you do that is going to change things, it is HOW YOU FEEL!  The Universe “reads” your vibration, so whatever you are putting out, you are going to get back, no questions asked!  A happy life starts with you!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach