Some say the negative experiences of our past define who we are, but I am not sure if I believe this. I am who I am because I choose to be. Giving your past all the credit gives it power. It holds you in a place that doesn’t always allow you to move forward. It keeps you living in fear because you don’t ever want to go back to “those days” so you live in the confines of what you think will keep you safe from the past. While at the same time you are also keeping yourself away from what life truly has to offer you.
Yes, there are things in my past I am not proud of or happy about but it is not those things telling me who to be. I am being who I am because I want to be happy, healthy and abundant. It makes me feel good to be a better, more loving and compassionate person, and to do what brings me joy. My past did not define this, I did. I was the one who made the decision of what kind of life I wanted and I am the only one responsible for it.
I know what you are probably thinking – you did a bad thing and it was that thing that made you want to change. In reality nothing or no one can make you change except yourself. The experience may have guided you in the decision to change, but it was all you. It was you wanting to get back in tune with your Inner Life whether you were aware of it or not.
There was a time when I indulged in negative and unhealthy behaviors and because I did not know any better I allowed them to define me. I lived with a negative label of myself because I thought I had to in order to be healthy and happy. I lived in fear that if I went to the wrong place or ran into the wrong people I would end up right back where I used to be. I closed myself off from the world and moved 3,000 miles away from home just to protect myself from a past that did not exist anymore – a past that I allowed to define who I was. But then one day I realized I held the golden key – the answer to any and all problems. And that was feeling good through my Inner Life, not through my outer life. All I had to do was get back in tune with the greater part of who I was and all the rest fell naturally into place. There were no more negative labels and there was no more fear.
Once I let go of my outer life and allowed my Inner Life guide me, life completely changed. I did not need anything other than myself to make me feel good. Trust me when I say you don’t need anyone or anything in your outer life the way you think you need them. They will all become an added bonus of pleasure and joy when they are “born” out of your Inner Life. You are all you need to create a fulfilling, happy and abundant life. Once you allow your Inner Life to guide you, and it will, and you will feel it, you will begin to fill with those unshakable feelings of peace, well-being, joy, happiness and love. The greatest part of it all is that there will never been a negative past with your Inner Life.
Define who you are without the negativity of your past. Live now, in the preciousness of each moment and see how quickly life starts working for you instead of against you. Leave the past behind and know it’s all you – you couldn’t have done it without yourself!
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach