So you made some mistakes ……. where are they now? We have all made mistakes and we will ALL continue to make mistakes. No matter how big or how small, how major or how minor, a mistake is only a mistake. We are the ones who put meaning to it, just like we are the ones who control how long they will affect us and our lives.
There are way too many people in the world who live IN their mistakes. They punish themselves over and over again with self-sabotaging behaviors because of something they did in the past. Every mistake you have ever made is in the past whether it was 5 years ago or 5 seconds ago. It is done and over with unless you hold onto it. Yes, there may be consequences to those mistakes, but they don’t have to deprive you of your happiness.
I too have made many mistakes. Some were very minor in nature and some were what I considered to be major, life changing mistakes. Because I didn’t know how to let go of them and forgive myself, I kept them close to me, and before I knew it they started feeding on each other until I completely broke open. I ended up going down a very dark road before I was able to see again.
You my friend, have the opportunity, every moment of every day to make the choice as to how your mistakes are going to affect you. There is no need to play them out in your head to try to figure out why or how. Just start from where you are. Start from right here, right now. Live from the inside out, through your Inner Life, not through your outer life which is where your mistakes are. Your mistakes are not a part of who you truly are and they are not what is going to make you into this or that. The only thing that can make you into anything is you. They may influence you, but they don’t make you. They are something you did while out of tune with who you really are, plain and simple.
And no, I am not saying they aren’t an important part of your growth or evolvement, I am just saying they don’t need all your attention nor do they need to be carried forward for days or years to come.
For me, moving past my mistakes was like taking a dark empty hole and filling it with fresh soil and new seeds so that beautiful bright flowers can grow to take the darkness away. Your mistakes are the same way. They can remain dark empty holes or you can fill them with flowers. Which would you prefer?
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach