Where Are Your Mistakes

820So you made some mistakes ……. where are they now?  We have all made mistakes and we will ALL continue to make mistakes.  No matter how big or how small, how major or how minor, a mistake is only a mistake.  We are the ones who put meaning to it, just like we are the ones who control how long they will affect us and our lives.

There are way too many people in the world who live IN their mistakes.  They punish themselves over and over again with self-sabotaging behaviors because of something they did in the past.  Every mistake you have ever made is in the past whether it was 5 years ago or 5 seconds ago.  It is done and over with unless you hold onto it.  Yes, there may be consequences to those mistakes, but they don’t have to deprive you of your happiness.

I too have made many mistakes.  Some were very minor in nature and some were what I considered to be major, life changing mistakes.  Because I didn’t know how to let go of them and forgive myself, I kept them close to me, and before I knew it they started feeding on each other until I completely broke open.  I ended up going down a very dark road before I was able to see again. 

14You my friend, have the opportunity, every moment of every day to make the choice as to how your mistakes are going to affect you.  There is no need to play them out in your head to try to figure out why or how.  Just start from where you are.  Start from right here, right now.  Live from the inside out, through your Inner Life, not through your outer life which is where your mistakes are.  Your mistakes are not a part of who you truly are and they are not what is going to make you into this or that.  The only thing that can make you into anything is you.  They may influence you, but they don’t make you.  They are something you did while out of tune with who you really are, plain and simple.

97And no, I am not saying they aren’t an important part of your growth or evolvement, I am just saying they don’t need all your attention nor do they need to be carried forward for days or years to come.   

For me, moving past my mistakes was like taking a dark empty hole and filling it with fresh soil and new seeds so that beautiful bright flowers can grow to take the darkness away.  Your mistakes are the same way.  They can remain dark empty holes or you can fill them with flowers.  Which would you prefer?

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

 

Second Chances

605There may come a time in your life when you are “offered” a second chance.  A chance to become who you are truly meant to be.  Through whatever means this second chance has come into your life, start from where you are.  There is no need to go back and rehash what was done right or wrong or how you ended up where you are.  There is also no need to start worrying about the future; as to whether or not things will work out or get better. 

Too often we impair ourselves by believing we need to “clean up” the past, but this will only hinder where you want to go.  When you go back in time it pulls you away from your Inner Life, from who you really are, from the present moment.  It causes unnecessary pain because you remember how and why you lost your way in the first place.  If you stay focused on “what was” instead of “what is” it will slowly drain you of your happiness and self-worth.  

Second chances are not about righting your wrongs or proving your worth; they are about you and only you on a very deep and personal level.  They are about you becoming who you really are by YOUR choice, not through the circumstances of your outer life or other people.  This in itself will alleviate and fade out any pain and/or destruction that was created before this moment.

87If a second chance is really what you want and desire then allow your heart to lead the way.  Live within the boundaries of your Inner Life and trust your instincts.  You will know which way to go and what words to speak.  You will know what feels good and what doesn’t feel good.  And you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that all is well and all will be well.

All that really matters from this point forward is who you choose to be and how you choose to live your life.  You do not have to prove anything to anyone but instead love with all your heart and allow your Inner Life carry you to where you want to be.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

What Is Your Happiness

694Like you, I search the internet for useful information.  One thing I have taken notice to is how many “steps” there are to achieving happiness or anything else for that matter. I don’t know about you, but if I were to try to follow 10 – 30 steps of anything I’d be exhausted before I even got started!  Now don’t get me wrong, the information may be useful but it is all too overwhelming especially for someone who is trying to overcome a struggle or achieve a specific goal. I do understand wanting to share what “works” especially when the advice comes from personal experience, but what about making it simple.

We try to get the people in our lives to follow in our footsteps because what worked for us will most definitely work for them!  I am guilty of this myself when it comes to family and friends.  I think to myself “if only they would just do what I do, everything would be fine”. But this is not always the case because everyone, even if they have the same desires, are on their own unique path, at their own rate of speed, so how you get there should be entirely up to YOU.  Of course you can seek guidance from others but I think it is important for each and every one of us to seek what we desire in a way we so choose.  In a way that makes US feel good.  In a way that adds to who WE really are.  The “way” does not matter as long as it brings you joy and happiness.

??????????????????????Life is not meant to be a struggle, it is meant to be joyous and fun so let’s make it that way!  Think about the things that will make your own personal journey through life meaningful, happy and satisfying. Think of it in terms of who YOU are, of what YOU want, and leave the rest behind.  You are the only one who can live your life so don’t you want to live it in your own way; making your own choices?  Just because a million people read a certain book that changed their lives, doesn’t mean you have to read that book, nor does it mean it is going to change your life.  There is certainly nothing wrong with trying new things, spending time with different types of people, or exploring what life has to offer.  This is how we “find” ourselves, through the people, places and things we choose.

The way I found my own happiness was by moving 3,000 miles away from everyone and everything I ever knew.  This may seem dramatic to some, but it was what I needed to do in order to figure out who I was and what I wanted out of life.  I was unable to do this with the influences I had around me so when the opportunity struck, I took it in a heartbeat. Was it worth it?  Yes!  It most definitely was and still is!  I re-connected to who I truly am by completely changing my life and feeling my way through each and every day. Now I only do what makes me feel good inside which has allowed me to see the treasures that lie within.  I still do things I would not normally choose to do, but I do them because someone else wants to do them, and in sharing that experience with them, it makes me feel good.

781Instead of trying to follow everyone else’s steps, make your own. Focus on what YOUR happiness is and where it comes from and then build your life around those things.  As long as you allow yourself to be who you truly are, everything else will fall naturally into place.  You won’t need steps or lists or advice.  Perhaps a little guidance from time to time, but once you tap into your Inner Life you will have all you need.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……

Love & Light,

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach