To Feel Good Is the Best Option

22If feeling good is the best option, then why do so many people choose not to feel good?  Why do so many people do the things, eat the things, or say the things that leave them feeling less than good?  I have pondered this for many, many years because like you, I have not always chosen the “feel good” path in life.  In fact, there were times when I chose to do things that I knew without a shadow of a doubt would make me feel absolutely miserable and yet on I went with it!  

I believe what happens is that we sink to the point of losing our faith in having the power to change how we feel and thus change how our lives play out.  For most, it’s a slow ride to the bottom.  A ride you may not even realize is taking you down until you are so far down it’s hard to get up.  It’s kind of like one day you wake up and get slapped in the face with your life. The realization of where you are hits you so hard it makes your stomach churn.  And the worst part, you have no idea how you got to be where you are.  Where did all those days, months, or years go?

23The good news….there is no need to worry or stress out about where you are OR how you got there.  There is ALWAYS a way out and UP. All you have to do is get back to feeling good.  No matter what it takes or how hard it may seem at the time, make the solid choice to feel good now.  Just for now, think a thought or do a thing – something – anything – that you know will make you feel good.  Stop trying to convince yourself that there is nothing at this point in your life that is going to make you feel good short of winning the lottery.  You always have a field of good feeling stuff to choose from.  It is up to you as to how bad you want it.  And if you are thinking that feeling good is not going to change your life or take care of your problems, you couldn’t be more wrong.  Feeling good, no matter what, is the key to your dreams and desires.  It is the key to getting back in tune with your Inner Life, the greater and more powerful part of who you truly are.  Feeling good is your golden ticket out and up of where you don’t want to be and in and around where you do want to be.  

668I never believed it either – that something as simple as choosing to feel good no matter what would change my life, but it did and it still does.  The more I choose to feel good, the more abundance flows into my life.  And yes, I too was stuck and woke up one day wondering how the heck I got to where I was.  At first it was hard to move out of the sludge, but the more I focused on how I wanted to feel versus how I was feeling the easier it became.  Before I knew it, I was waking up wondering how in the heck I ever chose to feel anything less than good, less than happy, less than joy, less than appreciative!  

It is your life and your choice.  If you truly want things to change for the better, there is nothing or no one that will stop you.  Just remember you have the power to create the life you want.  Be still and listen to your heart, for it knows nothing but the truth and the way.  Choose to feel good no matter what and watch what happens.  To feel good is the best option if you want out and up!

“If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be.” 

Love & Light,

Cindy Ortiz

The Gift of Self-Love

86To truly and fully love one’s self unconditionally is the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself but to others. When you live in and through love, you are living completely in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are. The love of self will radiate the pure nature of your true being.  It will, without effort, create life experiences that will bring you peace, appreciation, well-being, joy, happiness and abundance.

Every piece of our lives play out to the tune in which we created it ~ happy or unhappy ~ positive or negative ~ difficult or easy.  When you live in and through self-love, what do you think the outcome will be?  If you were able, and you are, to see and feel nothing but the love in you, about you, and around you, life would transform before your very eyes.  Feeding yourself love on a daily basis affects your body, mind and spirit bringing to you the natural flow of wellness, healing and positive energy.

The love of self does not always come easy especially for those who have difficulty appreciating and accepting their physical looks or forgiving themselves for their past mistakes. These two things alone can hinder one’s personal, mental and spiritual growth not to speak of creating a life that is filled with sadness, depression, dis-ease, guilt, regret, unhappiness and in some cases self-hatred.  For these and many more, they pay the consequences for the lack of self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and self-love.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  You always have a choice as to how you want to feel and how much love you want to give to yourself.  There is no one to blame but yourself.

371What most of us tend to forget is that we were created THROUGH LOVE and so WE ARE LOVE. This is a part of us that can NEVER be taken away.  It is the greater and most powerful part of who you really are!  You ARE and will ALWAYS be LOVE and LOVED – completely, wholly and unconditionally!

Starting the process of unconditional self-love can be daunting at first, but depending on where you are in your journey, it could come very naturally to you, just like riding a bike.  The first and most difficult thing I had to do was to come face to face with myself.  To take a long hard look at myself not only physically but also personally, mentally and spiritually.  I had to come to terms with the shape of my body and all of my past mistakes but once I made it over these hurdles, the rest fell easily and effortlessly into place.  You see, when you truly care about and love yourself the bad habits, unhealthy life styles, unfulfilling relationships, etc. slip away. They slip away because you know how they are going to make you feel and if they don’t make you feel anything by joy and happiness, why would you give them to yourself? 






283Truly caring for and loving yourself means making you and how you feel your #1 priority.  It means nurturing and caring for yourself as you would an infant.  It means giving to yourself, not just to others.  It means taking the time to appreciate who you are and how you look, knowing you are pure perfection.  When you make a mistake, and you will, take the time and effort to truly forgive yourself and allow yourself the freedom to move forward.  Self-love also means having self-compassion – be compassionate toward yourself instead of judgmental or critical.  Spend as much time as possible laughing and having fun!  Be patient and kind to yourself as we are all a work in progress.  Love yourself enough to be who you really want to be.  Follow your own heart.  Do what inspires you and enlightens you.  Surround yourself with people who make you feel alive and add to your experience, not take away from it.  Love yourself from the inside out.  If you create from love, it will never go wrong!  Most importantly, love yourself for exactly who you once were, who you are today, and who you are becoming!

139If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

Cindy K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

The Inner Life Journey

Be Easy On Yourself

08Why do we give ourselves such a hard time? So you ate a donut instead of a fruit, had a few drinks, didn’t do the housework, skipped going to the gym, laid on the couch all day.  In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?  As long as you did not cause yourself or anyone else harm, who cares what you did or didn’t do. 

Ten steps forward and one step back is not a big deal.  Instead of focusing on the one step back, focus on the ten steps forward.  Focus on the ten pieces of fruit you ate last week instead of the one donut.  Focus on the hundreds and hundreds of hours you have spent doing housework instead of the one day you didn’t.  Focus on the progress you are making with your health by going to the gym instead of the one day you skipped going. 

rp_182-199x300.jpgI know from my own personal experience that giving myself a hard time would only make matters worse.  Not only would I get upset over what I did or didn’t do, but I also began losing my self-esteem and self-worth.  It got to the point where I felt completely worthless and undeserving of anything good in my life.  Before I knew it, I was sabotaging every single good thing that came into my life.  It got so bad that the self-sabotage started to come in unconscious forms such as anxiety, stress, illness and dis-ease.  I can’t even begin to tell you how many life changing opportunities I lost because of one or more of these things.  And that was not even the worse part.  The worse part was that I became completely out of tune with my Inner Life.  Being out of tune with my Inner Life was the same as living in unhappiness.  Nothing made me happy and the more I gave myself a hard time the harder it was for me to look at myself in the mirror.

rp_121-300x187.jpgTrust me when I say it’s not worth it.  The negativity will eventually consume you to the point of what feels like no return.  But it doesn’t have to be that way.  It’s okay if you take that step back from time to time.  Your life is not going to fall apart and shatter unless you allow it to.  You are the one who is in control and who has the power over how you feel and how you choose to feel toward yourself and toward what you do and don’t do.  You are the only one who can make you feel bad.  The donut didn’t make you feel bad, you made you feel bad because of what you were thinking about that donut and about yourself.  The key to your success is what you choose to focus on ~ the one donut or the ten pieces of fruit.  In the end it’s all up to you.  So, just be easy on yourself and see how much easier life becomes. 

Love & Light,