The Gift of Self-Love

86To truly and fully love one’s self unconditionally is the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself but to others. When you live in and through love, you are living completely in tune with your Inner Life, the greater part of who you are. The love of self will radiate the pure nature of your true being.  It will, without effort, create life experiences that will bring you peace, appreciation, well-being, joy, happiness and abundance.

Every piece of our lives play out to the tune in which we created it ~ happy or unhappy ~ positive or negative ~ difficult or easy.  When you live in and through self-love, what do you think the outcome will be?  If you were able, and you are, to see and feel nothing but the love in you, about you, and around you, life would transform before your very eyes.  Feeding yourself love on a daily basis affects your body, mind and spirit bringing to you the natural flow of wellness, healing and positive energy.

The love of self does not always come easy especially for those who have difficulty appreciating and accepting their physical looks or forgiving themselves for their past mistakes. These two things alone can hinder one’s personal, mental and spiritual growth not to speak of creating a life that is filled with sadness, depression, dis-ease, guilt, regret, unhappiness and in some cases self-hatred.  For these and many more, they pay the consequences for the lack of self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and self-love.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  You always have a choice as to how you want to feel and how much love you want to give to yourself.  There is no one to blame but yourself.

371What most of us tend to forget is that we were created THROUGH LOVE and so WE ARE LOVE. This is a part of us that can NEVER be taken away.  It is the greater and most powerful part of who you really are!  You ARE and will ALWAYS be LOVE and LOVED – completely, wholly and unconditionally!

Starting the process of unconditional self-love can be daunting at first, but depending on where you are in your journey, it could come very naturally to you, just like riding a bike.  The first and most difficult thing I had to do was to come face to face with myself.  To take a long hard look at myself not only physically but also personally, mentally and spiritually.  I had to come to terms with the shape of my body and all of my past mistakes but once I made it over these hurdles, the rest fell easily and effortlessly into place.  You see, when you truly care about and love yourself the bad habits, unhealthy life styles, unfulfilling relationships, etc. slip away. They slip away because you know how they are going to make you feel and if they don’t make you feel anything by joy and happiness, why would you give them to yourself? 

FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON!

ACCEPT AND APPRECIATE ALL OF WHO YOU ARE!

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST!

PAMPER YOURSELF – YOU DESERVE IT!

LOVE YOURSELF INSIDE & OUT, EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

283Truly caring for and loving yourself means making you and how you feel your #1 priority.  It means nurturing and caring for yourself as you would an infant.  It means giving to yourself, not just to others.  It means taking the time to appreciate who you are and how you look, knowing you are pure perfection.  When you make a mistake, and you will, take the time and effort to truly forgive yourself and allow yourself the freedom to move forward.  Self-love also means having self-compassion – be compassionate toward yourself instead of judgmental or critical.  Spend as much time as possible laughing and having fun!  Be patient and kind to yourself as we are all a work in progress.  Love yourself enough to be who you really want to be.  Follow your own heart.  Do what inspires you and enlightens you.  Surround yourself with people who make you feel alive and add to your experience, not take away from it.  Love yourself from the inside out.  If you create from love, it will never go wrong!  Most importantly, love yourself for exactly who you once were, who you are today, and who you are becoming!

139If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

Cindy K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

The Inner Life Journey

Be Easy On Yourself

08Why do we give ourselves such a hard time? So you ate a donut instead of a fruit, had a few drinks, didn’t do the housework, skipped going to the gym, laid on the couch all day.  In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?  As long as you did not cause yourself or anyone else harm, who cares what you did or didn’t do. 

Ten steps forward and one step back is not a big deal.  Instead of focusing on the one step back, focus on the ten steps forward.  Focus on the ten pieces of fruit you ate last week instead of the one donut.  Focus on the hundreds and hundreds of hours you have spent doing housework instead of the one day you didn’t.  Focus on the progress you are making with your health by going to the gym instead of the one day you skipped going. 

rp_182-199x300.jpgI know from my own personal experience that giving myself a hard time would only make matters worse.  Not only would I get upset over what I did or didn’t do, but I also began losing my self-esteem and self-worth.  It got to the point where I felt completely worthless and undeserving of anything good in my life.  Before I knew it, I was sabotaging every single good thing that came into my life.  It got so bad that the self-sabotage started to come in unconscious forms such as anxiety, stress, illness and dis-ease.  I can’t even begin to tell you how many life changing opportunities I lost because of one or more of these things.  And that was not even the worse part.  The worse part was that I became completely out of tune with my Inner Life.  Being out of tune with my Inner Life was the same as living in unhappiness.  Nothing made me happy and the more I gave myself a hard time the harder it was for me to look at myself in the mirror.

rp_121-300x187.jpgTrust me when I say it’s not worth it.  The negativity will eventually consume you to the point of what feels like no return.  But it doesn’t have to be that way.  It’s okay if you take that step back from time to time.  Your life is not going to fall apart and shatter unless you allow it to.  You are the one who is in control and who has the power over how you feel and how you choose to feel toward yourself and toward what you do and don’t do.  You are the only one who can make you feel bad.  The donut didn’t make you feel bad, you made you feel bad because of what you were thinking about that donut and about yourself.  The key to your success is what you choose to focus on ~ the one donut or the ten pieces of fruit.  In the end it’s all up to you.  So, just be easy on yourself and see how much easier life becomes. 

Love & Light,

Cindy

Happiness or Unhappiness – It’s YOUR Choice

10A happy life starts with you, just as an unhappy life starts with you ~ no one else, just you.  You are the one who controls how you feel about anything and everything, which in turn controls how life is going to feel to you.  Let’s say you are having a bad day.  From the moment your feet hit the floor nothing seems to go the way you want it to.  You are faced with one unwanted situation after another and before you know it you are caught up in a tunnel of frustration, irritation, stress, anxiety, negativity and maybe even anger. 

If you keep living and re-living where you don’t want to be you will make it more difficult to get to where you do want to be.  Before you know it, days, weeks, if not months or years have passed and you are still carrying around the unwanted as if it were your best friend.  But remember, you always have a choice.  You can choose to be happy no matter what, or you can choose to be unhappy and miserable.  The longer you hold onto the unwanted, the worse you are going to feel.  You can continue to allow life’s unwanted “annoyances” get you down or you can change your thoughts and attitude about them.

04We are always going to be faced with unwanted things because it is the natural cycle of life.  To know darkness you have to know light.  To know what you want you have to know what you don’t want.  However, the degree, intensity, and time you experience it is totally up to you.  You can allow it to change your life for the worse or you can allow it to open up many more wonderful possibilities. The last thing you want to do is to fight against the unwanted.  And yes, sometimes it is easier said than done but what you have to ask yourself, even in the midst of chaos, is how you want to feel.  Do you want this thing that is causing you to feel less than joyful and happy, perhaps even stressed, worried, or full of fear, have control of you? Do you want this thing to be the decision maker in how your life is going to turn out?  No, of course you don’t.  So what are you going to do about it?  You are going to embrace it for what it is, let go of your attachment to what was, do what you have to do, and keep moving forward with a positive and optimistic attitude.  The world is your oyster if you allow it to be.

03Another thing to think about is this ~ why do we allow what we don’t like affect us in a negative way ~ meaning, why do we choose to be unhappy when we know it is our happiness and joy that is going to carry us to where we want to be!  Feeling good is the golden key to the Universe.  It is the key to all your dreams and desires.  Take it from someone who knows.  I spent the good portion of 20 years being unhappy but when I made the decision to live through my Inner Life and be happy no matter what, my life changed for the better.  And the amazing part of it, is that it keeps changing for the better.  You will grow, expand, get what you want, and become a deliberate creator……if you would just give to yourself first.  Don’t sit around waiting for something or someone to make  you feel better, just feel better ~ be happy ~ be joyful ~ be loving ~ be kind~ be playful ~ be excited ~ just for the sake of being happy, joyful, loving, kind, playful and excited!  The more you feel good the faster things are going to change.  It is not directly what you do that is going to change things, it is HOW YOU FEEL!  The Universe “reads” your vibration, so whatever you are putting out, you are going to get back, no questions asked!  A happy life starts with you!

rp_03-300x168.jpgLove & Light,

Cindy