Be the Change that YOU Desire!

52If you have a desire for change, you can start right from where you are. There is no need to go backwards to get to where you want to be. If you know what you want half the battle is over. The past is the past and it no longer exists, so don’t let it exist within you. Whatever it is you want to change or do different, just do it. Do not sit around beating yourself up over what you have done wrong or what you could have done differently. This will only keep you from moving forward.

Every moment you have is an opportunity to be who YOU want to be and do what YOU want to do. Be the change that YOU desire. You do not need anyone else’s permission. If someone in your life tries to discourage you, it is only because of their own insecurities and fears. Stay focused and present in every moment, for it is every moment that will create the next moment.

41For some, change is as simple as making the decision to change. For others, it is more difficult. If you find change difficult, it is simply because you are living more in your outer life than you are living through your Inner Life. Your outer life creates fear, resistance and negativity. Whereas, your Inner Life creates peace, joy and an unshakeable knowing that all is well.

Where you are is okay and there is nothing “wrong”. You are where you are because of your choices, thought patterns and beliefs. It is okay to accept where you are. This doesn’t mean staying idle, it means coming to terms with who and where you are and then taking the steps to get you to where you want to be.

39If you want to change yourself, your life and/or your patterns of thought, choose to do the opposite of that which you are doing now. If you think negative thoughts, choose to think positive thoughts. If you are an unkind person, choose to be kinder. If you are an alcoholic, choose not to drink and go to a meeting. If you are unhappy, choose to be happy and do something that feels good. If your life is boring, choose different activities to spice it up a little.

If you find yourself slipping back into your old patterns, and you will at first, just remember where and who you are – you are this moment and this moment only. Stop, take a breath, know that you have a choice, and be who you NOW want to be. The desire for change is just the beginning – you can do it, so just do it!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …

Love & Light,

Cindy

Their Path Is Not Wrong, It’s Just Theirs

08It hurts to see someone we love struggle with life especially when we know what it feels like.  One of the greatest things I have learned throughout my journey is that everyone is on their own unique path.  No matter where they are or what they are doing, their path is not wrong, it’s just theirs.  It’s theirs to do whatever they want to do with it – good or bad. 

When we see someone struggling, we sometimes have the tendency to step off our path and onto theirs.  In our effort to help, we put ourselves to the side, but in the end, it doesn’t help them and it doesn’t help us.  It doesn’t help them because eventually their path is not going to work for us so they will be left feeling abandoned and alone when we make the choice to go back to our own path.  It doesn’t help us because when we take the path of another we lose ourselves in the other person’s struggles which leads to becoming out of tune with our Inner Life.

96What I have discovered is that we can help others without stepping off our own path.  We can help by being an example of a positive life ~ a happy life.  We can encourage and support those around us without compromising our own happiness.  We share our own struggles of the past, giving them hope that they too can change their life. We lend guidance to show them that there is in fact a “better” way ~ a more fulfilling, abundant and joyful way of dealing with and overcoming life’s unwanted experiences. 

In trying to help those we love, or anyone for that matter, there is always a chance they will not be ready or willing to try another path.  For whatever reason, this too is okay.  There is no path that is wrong.  If the other person chooses to continue their struggle with no effort in changing things, it doesn’t mean your efforts have failed.  It just means they need to remain where they are even if they don’t know why. 

686It can be hard when someone chooses to stay where they are.  It’s hard because you know there is a happier way.  This is when you need to remain strong and you need to remain on your own path.  It is not a time to judge or criticize but to love unconditionally.  Accept them for who they are and where they are.  If their actions and behaviors are causing you pain, it may be time to walk away.  Rest assured, when the time comes, when they are ready to end their suffering, there is no doubt they will do whatever it takes to create a life more in tune with their true desires and dreams.  A life more in tune with their Inner Life, the greater part of who they truly are.

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …

Love & Light,

Cindy

Appreciating Yourself, Completely

351When you become consumed with negative feelings about yourself, it is nearly impossible to see anything, let alone yourself, in a positive light.  You are absent of worthiness and full of self-doubt.  You get caught in a never-ending cycle of self-defeating behaviors and before you know it, you cannot find meaning or purpose in your life.  This state of mind will eventually affect your overall well-being, not to speak of causing you to become out of tune with your Inner Life.

I know how difficult it can be to feel good about yourself when you are completely down.  Sometimes, in order to find and feel appreciation for who we are, regardless of how we got to where we are or what we did, it may serve us well to look outside ourselves first.  Select something outside yourself that makes you feel good and then feel appreciation for it until you feel a shift in your energy…..and you will. Whatever you do, stay focused on whatever it may be that makes you feel better until it begins to take form within you. Once you start to feel the appreciation within you, it’s time to turn inward and allow your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be.

355From this point forward, fill yourself up with the people, places, things, thoughts and feelings that bring you the most joy and happiness. Find appreciation for all of God’s perfect creations.  Once your positive momentum gets moving, allow yourself the joy in appreciating yourself, completely.  Appreciate everything there is to appreciate – get up close and personal with YOU. Before you know it, the all-knowing, pure positive energy will start pouring out of you, and then there will be unconditional self-love. It is then that the darkness fades away and the light shines through!!!!

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

Cindy Ortiz