Taking A Leap of Faith – From Fear to Happiness

SONY DSCI used to fear being happy.  I was afraid if I became truly happy something or someone would take that happiness away from me so I lived in unhappiness.  What I didn’t know at the time was that there was nothing to fear and that I was the one responsible for my own happiness.  No matter what was said or done to me, I always had the choice as to how I was going to let it affect me.  Unfortunately, I allowed too many things affect me in a very negative way.  I allowed everyone to have control over my happiness.  Basically, I was putting my entire life in the hands of others because I didn’t know any better and because I was afraid not to.  I didn’t know all I had to do was to live through my Inner Life, the greater part of who we are.  To live in the present moment and allow life to move with me, instead of against me, took all the fear away.

34When I had enough unhappiness, I took a huge leap of faith from fear to happiness.  I let go of everything I was holding onto, especially my fear, and I CHOSE happiness.  I chose to feel good now instead of waiting for something or someone to make me happy.  I chose to be here now, to live and focus as much as I could in the present moment, and to live first through my Inner Life.  I set aside all those outer life things that were causing my fear and unhappiness.  I relaxed, trusted myself, and embraced life.  For the first time in my life I felt like I was able to breathe.  I was free from the pain and fear.  I soon came to learn there was nothing to fear in myself or in my life.  And there is nothing to fear in yours either!

789Was it, or has it always been easy?  No, of course not, but it has been well worth it.  The times that were difficult were only difficult because I was putting up resistance to what was, out of fear.  I was trying to control what was happening instead of remaining in my relaxed state of being and allowing life to flow naturally, easily and effortlessly.  In time, it did get easier and to this day I still have my moments where I sway just a little towards fear, but the good thing is that I am so aware of how I feel and how I want to feel, that I never fall.

F – Faith

E – Energy

A – Adventurous

R – Resilience

15What is fear?  Fear is a word.  A word we have given much power to.  Fear is a belief.  A belief that something is so bad it causes us to be scared.  Think for a moment about how putting the word fear to a thing creates such negativity and fear within ourselves.  For example, many of us are afraid of snakes and spiders, but why?  Because we were taught they were something to fear.  What if we were taught that kittens were something to fear and snakes and spiders were cute and cuddly?  Ok, that may be stretching it a bit, but I think you get my point.  The things we tie fear to are only in our minds.  We all have the power and the ability to change what causes us fear and what doesn’t.

Frog 02What are you afraid of right now in your life?  Are you afraid of changing jobs, moving to a new town, ending your relationship, not losing weight, getting sick, losing a loved one?  Which fears are causing you the most unhappiness and what are you going to do about it?  Isn’t it time to take a leap of faith from fear to happiness?  To trust yourself, relax and embrace life.  Or would you rather live the rest of your life wondering what could have been, if only …..

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …. 

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

Where Are Your Mistakes

820So you made some mistakes ……. where are they now?  We have all made mistakes and we will ALL continue to make mistakes.  No matter how big or how small, how major or how minor, a mistake is only a mistake.  We are the ones who put meaning to it, just like we are the ones who control how long they will affect us and our lives.

There are way too many people in the world who live IN their mistakes.  They punish themselves over and over again with self-sabotaging behaviors because of something they did in the past.  Every mistake you have ever made is in the past whether it was 5 years ago or 5 seconds ago.  It is done and over with unless you hold onto it.  Yes, there may be consequences to those mistakes, but they don’t have to deprive you of your happiness.

I too have made many mistakes.  Some were very minor in nature and some were what I considered to be major, life changing mistakes.  Because I didn’t know how to let go of them and forgive myself, I kept them close to me, and before I knew it they started feeding on each other until I completely broke open.  I ended up going down a very dark road before I was able to see again. 

14You my friend, have the opportunity, every moment of every day to make the choice as to how your mistakes are going to affect you.  There is no need to play them out in your head to try to figure out why or how.  Just start from where you are.  Start from right here, right now.  Live from the inside out, through your Inner Life, not through your outer life which is where your mistakes are.  Your mistakes are not a part of who you truly are and they are not what is going to make you into this or that.  The only thing that can make you into anything is you.  They may influence you, but they don’t make you.  They are something you did while out of tune with who you really are, plain and simple.

97And no, I am not saying they aren’t an important part of your growth or evolvement, I am just saying they don’t need all your attention nor do they need to be carried forward for days or years to come.   

For me, moving past my mistakes was like taking a dark empty hole and filling it with fresh soil and new seeds so that beautiful bright flowers can grow to take the darkness away.  Your mistakes are the same way.  They can remain dark empty holes or you can fill them with flowers.  Which would you prefer?

If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach

 

Free Yourself From Regret

135Throughout our lives we will say and do things which will cause regret. These things may be said or done in the “heat of the moment” or while “temporarily suspended” from our Inner Life, who we really are.  The regret we feel may come instantly or it may come later after the realization of what we did hits us.  What makes it worse is when we not only hurt ourselves but when we hurt those we love.

Regret is a negative emotion that if held onto can cause even more pain and suffering then what you may already be experiencing.  It is also an emotion that could very easily control you.  If you live with the belief that you deserve the pain your regret has created, it will eventually eat you alive, gnawing away at you piece by piece until there is nothing left.  On the other hand, if you are willing to embrace yourself, your actions, and your regret in a positive light, allowing them to serve a higher purpose, you may just find a little treasure hidden within your regret.  A treasure that will reveal to you who you truly want to be and also, who you are not. 

817When a life experience creates the feeling of regret, it is also just a friendly reminder that you are out of tune with your Inner Life.  The best thing you can do to free yourself from regret is to remember it does not exist.  The experience is over and the feeling of regret is just that – a feeling – a feeling that can in fact be controlled by you.  You can choose to keep it in your present life experience or you can choose to let it go.  You are here now, not there then. 

There may be nothing you can do to change what was said or done, but taking personal responsibility for it will help in the healing process.  Owning up to our mistakes not only empowers us but it also helps to free ourselves from the regret and the pain we are experiencing.  There is no sense in holding onto something in the past especially when it can cause so much damage to ourselves and eventually to those around us. 

819When the regret you feel comes from hurting another, it is harder to let go of because you are not the only one hurting.  Your words and actions can cut like a knife leaving a small trail of blood in its path. Trying to look someone in the eye to say “I am sorry” while feeling worthless and humiliated by your own hand is a humbling experience to say the least. There is no guarantee they will find forgiveness in their heart for you, but you must find forgiveness in your own heart for yourself in order to heal.

Regardless of what caused your regret, you will always have a choice as to who you are going to be at any given moment in time.  You can choose the same behavior or you can choose to be who you really are.  Living through your Inner Life will always guide you in the right direction, freeing you from past and future regret.

 If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within.  Live, breathe and be your Inner Life.  Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….

Love & Light,

 

Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach