Happiness or Unhappiness – It’s YOUR Choice

10A happy life starts with you, just as an unhappy life starts with you ~ no one else, just you.  You are the one who controls how you feel about anything and everything, which in turn controls how life is going to feel to you.  Let’s say you are having a bad day.  From the moment your feet hit the floor nothing seems to go the way you want it to.  You are faced with one unwanted situation after another and before you know it you are caught up in a tunnel of frustration, irritation, stress, anxiety, negativity and maybe even anger. 

If you keep living and re-living where you don’t want to be you will make it more difficult to get to where you do want to be.  Before you know it, days, weeks, if not months or years have passed and you are still carrying around the unwanted as if it were your best friend.  But remember, you always have a choice.  You can choose to be happy no matter what, or you can choose to be unhappy and miserable.  The longer you hold onto the unwanted, the worse you are going to feel.  You can continue to allow life’s unwanted “annoyances” get you down or you can change your thoughts and attitude about them.

04We are always going to be faced with unwanted things because it is the natural cycle of life.  To know darkness you have to know light.  To know what you want you have to know what you don’t want.  However, the degree, intensity, and time you experience it is totally up to you.  You can allow it to change your life for the worse or you can allow it to open up many more wonderful possibilities. The last thing you want to do is to fight against the unwanted.  And yes, sometimes it is easier said than done but what you have to ask yourself, even in the midst of chaos, is how you want to feel.  Do you want this thing that is causing you to feel less than joyful and happy, perhaps even stressed, worried, or full of fear, have control of you? Do you want this thing to be the decision maker in how your life is going to turn out?  No, of course you don’t.  So what are you going to do about it?  You are going to embrace it for what it is, let go of your attachment to what was, do what you have to do, and keep moving forward with a positive and optimistic attitude.  The world is your oyster if you allow it to be.

03Another thing to think about is this ~ why do we allow what we don’t like affect us in a negative way ~ meaning, why do we choose to be unhappy when we know it is our happiness and joy that is going to carry us to where we want to be!  Feeling good is the golden key to the Universe.  It is the key to all your dreams and desires.  Take it from someone who knows.  I spent the good portion of 20 years being unhappy but when I made the decision to live through my Inner Life and be happy no matter what, my life changed for the better.  And the amazing part of it, is that it keeps changing for the better.  You will grow, expand, get what you want, and become a deliberate creator……if you would just give to yourself first.  Don’t sit around waiting for something or someone to make  you feel better, just feel better ~ be happy ~ be joyful ~ be loving ~ be kind~ be playful ~ be excited ~ just for the sake of being happy, joyful, loving, kind, playful and excited!  The more you feel good the faster things are going to change.  It is not directly what you do that is going to change things, it is HOW YOU FEEL!  The Universe “reads” your vibration, so whatever you are putting out, you are going to get back, no questions asked!  A happy life starts with you!

rp_03-300x168.jpgLove & Light,

Cindy

Suicide Isn’t Just About Death

angel-wallpaper-2Suicide is not just the act of killing one’s self.  Suicide is a long painful road filled with an endless feeling of such deep depression that it could be compared to that of slowly burning to death from the inside out.  Suicide is a choice not to be judged or criticized. 

When a suicide story hits the news it is typically responded to in a negative way.  Many would say it is selfish, cowardly and an easy way out.  Some would even look at it as a sign of weakness, but I feel differently.  It takes a lot of strength and courage to make a choice of such magnitude ~ to endure so much emotional pain and suffering for so long.  Not everyone can or has the ability to reach out and ask for help.  Not everyone believes in or can see hope for something better.  Most probably do not even know why they feel the way they do, they just know they want the pain to stop.

Suicide isn’t just about death.  It’s about a deep and tormenting pain that won’t go away.  A pain that cannot be overcome for one reason or another.  It’s about suffering on a level that cannot be explained or even put into words for most.  Suicide is about freedom and relief.  It’s about being able to breathe and in finding peace. 

24Those who choose death over life have suffered long enough.  They have done their best to live in a world, that to them, is filled with darkness. A darkness that has no light and no hope of ever seeing light.

Suicide should not be judged or criticized but instead embraced with unconditional love, compassion, and understanding.  An understanding that may never be understood. 

Think for a moment of what it must feel like to be so disconnected from love, peace, happiness and well-being that your only hope for anything better is death.  It’s hard to imagine isn’t it? So if you can’t imagine it, don’t be negative about it.

Love & Light,

Cindy Ortiz

Letting Go of Emotional Wounds

377There are no emotional wounds that are unable to be healed.  If your wounds are not healed or are not healing as fast as you would like, it is through no fault but of your own.  We are the ones who are in control of our healing.  We are the ones who control how our wounds affects us.  And if you want to take it one step further, we are the ones who turn something into a wound.  Yes, we all have them, and there may be more to come, but it is up to us as to how they play out in our lives.  We can allow them to control and destroy our well-being, sense of peace, and happiness or we can learn and grow from them.  We can turn them into something positive even if it means just accepting them for what they are until we are able to see the light they hold.  So if you live with old or new wounds and they cause you to feel anything less than joy or happiness, isn’t it time to let them go? Isn’t it time to return to the present moment, get back in tune with your Inner Life, release the past, and give yourself some room to breathe again?

Love & Light,

Cindy