It hurts to see someone we love struggle with life especially when we know what it feels like. One of the greatest things I have learned throughout my journey is that everyone is on their own unique path. No matter where they are or what they are doing, their path is not wrong, it’s just theirs. It’s theirs to do whatever they want to do with it – good or bad.
When we see someone struggling, we sometimes have the tendency to step off our path and onto theirs. In our effort to help, we put ourselves to the side, but in the end, it doesn’t help them and it doesn’t help us. It doesn’t help them because eventually their path is not going to work for us so they will be left feeling abandoned and alone when we make the choice to go back to our own path. It doesn’t help us because when we take the path of another we lose ourselves in the other person’s struggles which leads to becoming out of tune with our Inner Life.
What I have discovered is that we can help others without stepping off our own path. We can help by being an example of a positive life ~ a happy life. We can encourage and support those around us without compromising our own happiness. We share our own struggles of the past, giving them hope that they too can change their life. We lend guidance to show them that there is in fact a “better” way ~ a more fulfilling, abundant and joyful way of dealing with and overcoming life’s unwanted experiences.
In trying to help those we love, or anyone for that matter, there is always a chance they will not be ready or willing to try another path. For whatever reason, this too is okay. There is no path that is wrong. If the other person chooses to continue their struggle with no effort in changing things, it doesn’t mean your efforts have failed. It just means they need to remain where they are even if they don’t know why.
It can be hard when someone chooses to stay where they are. It’s hard because you know there is a happier way. This is when you need to remain strong and you need to remain on your own path. It is not a time to judge or criticize but to love unconditionally. Accept them for who they are and where they are. If their actions and behaviors are causing you pain, it may be time to walk away. Rest assured, when the time comes, when they are ready to end their suffering, there is no doubt they will do whatever it takes to create a life more in tune with their true desires and dreams. A life more in tune with their Inner Life, the greater part of who they truly are.
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be …
Love & Light,
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