Why do we give ourselves such a hard time? So you ate a donut instead of a fruit, had a few drinks, didn’t do the housework, skipped going to the gym, laid on the couch all day. In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter? As long as you did not cause yourself or anyone else harm, who cares what you did or didn’t do.
Ten steps forward and one step back is not a big deal. Instead of focusing on the one step back, focus on the ten steps forward. Focus on the ten pieces of fruit you ate last week instead of the one donut. Focus on the hundreds and hundreds of hours you have spent doing housework instead of the one day you didn’t. Focus on the progress you are making with your health by going to the gym instead of the one day you skipped going.
I know from my own personal experience that giving myself a hard time would only make matters worse. Not only would I get upset over what I did or didn’t do, but I also began losing my self-esteem and self-worth. It got to the point where I felt completely worthless and undeserving of anything good in my life. Before I knew it, I was sabotaging every single good thing that came into my life. It got so bad that the self-sabotage started to come in unconscious forms such as anxiety, stress, illness and dis-ease. I can’t even begin to tell you how many life changing opportunities I lost because of one or more of these things. And that was not even the worse part. The worse part was that I became completely out of tune with my Inner Life. Being out of tune with my Inner Life was the same as living in unhappiness. Nothing made me happy and the more I gave myself a hard time the harder it was for me to look at myself in the mirror.
Trust me when I say it’s not worth it. The negativity will eventually consume you to the point of what feels like no return. But it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s okay if you take that step back from time to time. Your life is not going to fall apart and shatter unless you allow it to. You are the one who is in control and who has the power over how you feel and how you choose to feel toward yourself and toward what you do and don’t do. You are the only one who can make you feel bad. The donut didn’t make you feel bad, you made you feel bad because of what you were thinking about that donut and about yourself. The key to your success is what you choose to focus on ~ the one donut or the ten pieces of fruit. In the end it’s all up to you. So, just be easy on yourself and see how much easier life becomes.
Love & Light,