When you know your worth, and you are worthy, the hurtful words and actions of others go through you instead of knocking you down. For me, they filter through my Inner Life and become purified into love. Love toward the one who is still suffering.
The one’s who suffer are the ones who hurt us the most. They say they love us and yet at the same time they aim their spears at us. Spears filled with THEIR inner pain masked as hurtful words and actions. When the pain of the past begins to stir within them it is easier to avoid what they don’t want to feel so they search for an outlet ~ another way around the pain instead of just facing the truth ~ their truth.
If the suffering is understood on a higher level, knowing someone’s hurtful ways come from a very deep seeded pain within THEM, we can be patient because we understand. We can try to help and guide this person away from what doesn’t matter toward what really does matter. However, there comes a point when enough is enough. When you have tried to be there, to reach out, to love, to be honest and forgiving but to no avail. You are worthy of more, of better, of your true dreams and desires.
Ending this type of relationship does not make you the bad guy. It makes you the guy who cares enough about yourself and your happiness, as you should, to let go and move on. It makes you the guy who now chooses to live through your Inner Life, through love for yourself, more so than through obligation or guilt. This doesn’t mean you can’t care about their well-being, because you can.
It is not your job or duty to make others “better”. It is up to them to change, but first they have to want to change, and they have to do it on their own. Putting your worth first and foremost will allow you to move on free of guilt and pain.
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach
- Letting Go of Emotional Pain (leaplikeafrog.com)
- Allowing the Truth to Surface (leaplikeafrog.com)
- Reflections – August 7, 2014 (cindy-ortiz.com)
- You Are Worthy (clarabelle.org)
- Collective Self Worth (yesrising.com)
- What It Means To Be Worthy (thoughtcatalog.com)
- Emotional Healing: How to Develop an Unshakable Sense of Deep Self-Worth (thehealersjournal.com)