I used to fear being happy. I was afraid if I became truly happy something or someone would take that happiness away from me so I lived in unhappiness. What I didn’t know at the time was that there was nothing to fear and that I was the one responsible for my own happiness. No matter what was said or done to me, I always had the choice as to how I was going to let it affect me. Unfortunately, I allowed too many things affect me in a very negative way. I allowed everyone to have control over my happiness. Basically, I was putting my entire life in the hands of others because I didn’t know any better and because I was afraid not to. I didn’t know all I had to do was to live through my Inner Life, the greater part of who we are. To live in the present moment and allow life to move with me, instead of against me, took all the fear away.
When I had enough unhappiness, I took a huge leap of faith from fear to happiness. I let go of everything I was holding onto, especially my fear, and I CHOSE happiness. I chose to feel good now instead of waiting for something or someone to make me happy. I chose to be here now, to live and focus as much as I could in the present moment, and to live first through my Inner Life. I set aside all those outer life things that were causing my fear and unhappiness. I relaxed, trusted myself, and embraced life. For the first time in my life I felt like I was able to breathe. I was free from the pain and fear. I soon came to learn there was nothing to fear in myself or in my life. And there is nothing to fear in yours either!
Was it, or has it always been easy? No, of course not, but it has been well worth it. The times that were difficult were only difficult because I was putting up resistance to what was, out of fear. I was trying to control what was happening instead of remaining in my relaxed state of being and allowing life to flow naturally, easily and effortlessly. In time, it did get easier and to this day I still have my moments where I sway just a little towards fear, but the good thing is that I am so aware of how I feel and how I want to feel, that I never fall.
F – Faith
E – Energy
A – Adventurous
R – Resilience
What is fear? Fear is a word. A word we have given much power to. Fear is a belief. A belief that something is so bad it causes us to be scared. Think for a moment about how putting the word fear to a thing creates such negativity and fear within ourselves. For example, many of us are afraid of snakes and spiders, but why? Because we were taught they were something to fear. What if we were taught that kittens were something to fear and snakes and spiders were cute and cuddly? Ok, that may be stretching it a bit, but I think you get my point. The things we tie fear to are only in our minds. We all have the power and the ability to change what causes us fear and what doesn’t.
What are you afraid of right now in your life? Are you afraid of changing jobs, moving to a new town, ending your relationship, not losing weight, getting sick, losing a loved one? Which fears are causing you the most unhappiness and what are you going to do about it? Isn’t it time to take a leap of faith from fear to happiness? To trust yourself, relax and embrace life. Or would you rather live the rest of your life wondering what could have been, if only …..
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be ….
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach
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