A happy life starts with you, just as an unhappy life starts with you ~ no one else, just you. You are the one who controls how you feel about anything and everything, which in turn controls how life is going to feel to you. Let’s say you are having a bad day. From the moment your feet hit the floor nothing seems to go the way you want it to. You are faced with one unwanted situation after another and before you know it you are caught up in a tunnel of frustration, irritation, stress, anxiety, negativity and maybe even anger.
If you keep living and re-living where you don’t want to be you will make it more difficult to get to where you do want to be. Before you know it, days, weeks, if not months or years have passed and you are still carrying around the unwanted as if it were your best friend. But remember, you always have a choice. You can choose to be happy no matter what, or you can choose to be unhappy and miserable. The longer you hold onto the unwanted, the worse you are going to feel. You can continue to allow life’s unwanted “annoyances” get you down or you can change your thoughts and attitude about them.
We are always going to be faced with unwanted things because it is the natural cycle of life. To know darkness you have to know light. To know what you want you have to know what you don’t want. However, the degree, intensity, and time you experience it is totally up to you. You can allow it to change your life for the worse or you can allow it to open up many more wonderful possibilities.
The last thing you want to do is to fight against the unwanted. And yes, sometimes it is easier said than done but what you have to ask yourself, even in the midst of chaos, is how you want to feel. Do you want this thing that is causing you to feel less than joyful and happy, perhaps even stressed, worried, or full of fear, have control of you? Do you want this thing to be the decision maker in how your life is going to turn out? No, of course you don’t. So what are you going to do about it? You are going to embrace it for what it is, let go of your attachment to what was, do what you have to do, and keep moving forward with a positive and optimistic attitude. The world is your oyster if you allow it to be.
Another thing to think about is this ~ why do we allow what we don’t like affect us in a negative way ~ meaning, why do we choose to be unhappy when we know it is our happiness and joy that is going to carry us to where we want to be! Feeling good is the golden key to the Universe. It is the key to all your dreams and desires. Take it from someone who knows. I spent the good portion of 20 years being unhappy but when I made the decision to live through my Inner Life and be happy no matter what, my life changed for the better. And the amazing part of it, is that it keeps getting better and better. You will grow, expand, get what you want, and become a deliberate creator….if you would just give to yourself first. Don’t sit around waiting for something or someone to make you feel better, just feel better ~ be happy ~ be joyful ~ be loving ~ be kind~ be playful ~ be excited ~ just for the sake of being happy, joyful, loving, kind, playful and excited! The more you feel good the faster things are going to change. It is not directly what you do that is going to change things, it is HOW YOU FEEL! The Universe “reads” your vibration, so whatever you are putting out, you are going to get back, no questions asked! A happy life starts with you!
If true and lasting happiness is what you seek, seek first from within. Live, breathe and be your Inner Life. Quiet your mind, focus solely on the present moment, and allow the power of your Inner Life guide you to where you want to be……
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach