About 4 years ago I was helping a 5-year-old boy who was living a difficult life. Not only was he was learning the negative beliefs and behaviors of his parents who were both addicts and verbally abusive, but he was living with a lot of anger.
During a short period of time I became his friend, confidant, parent, punching bag, companion and teacher. We went through many painful times together but we also had some very joyful times.
I remembered something he and I did that helped to relieve his anger and the things that bothered him. It started with an art class. He and I would do one form of art on a weekly basis. On this particular day he came over so we could decorate some jars together which we did. After we were done we sat back and admired our work. He then turned to me and asked what we were going to put in them. Honestly, I had no clue. So I asked him what he would like to put in them and after a few minutes he turned to me with a saddened face and said “bad stuff, I want to put bad stuff in them”. I knew in my heart what he was talking about but I still asked a few questions.
After some time we came up with the idea to write down on a piece of paper what was bothering us, so we did. I of course had to help him with his but it still had the same effect. When we were done, we folded it up and put it in our jar. I told him that once it goes in the jar it can no longer hurt, anger or upset us. He eagerly agreed.
I had no clue how any of this would turn out, but in the end the jar made a world of difference. As much as it pained my heart to hear the “bad stuff” I knew it was helping. He would come over distraught, emotional and crying, but after we wrote the bad stuff down and put it in the jar, he was relieved ~ just like that. Not only could I see it in his face and body but I could also feel it in his energy. His belief in the jar was one to be admired. I soon began filling my jar and lo n’ behold it really did work! Whatever I put in the jar, stayed in the jar.
All you have to do is grab a jar, bottle or box, keep a small note pad and pen beside it and whenever you find yourself stressed, worried or angry about something or at someone, jot it down and put it in the jar with the KNOWING that once it is in the jar it can no longer have an effect on you. It is there if you want it, but for the time being just put it in the jar and forget about it.
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach