When you turn a situation, an experience, into a problem you not only create stress and anxiety but you also create pain. The question is not about the situation, but why we choose to turn it into a problem. Problems are self created because we believe things that do not make us feel good are problems. But are they really?
Yes, a problem is a difficult situation, matter or person. However, why not give difficult situations a different meaning? Why not turn the light of positivity on it and look at it as a growth opportunity. An opportunity you could very well use as a stepping stone toward that which you do want. The more you discover what it is you do not want, the closer you get to having what you do want. You can’t have one without the other. You have to know what you don’t want, to know what you do want.
The thing about this, is that until you have suffered enough, more than likely you won’t make the choice to look at situations differently. In fact, you may not even want to because when you move into a more settled and peaceful state of mind, it may feel uncomfortable to you because you are not used to it. However, look at it this way – don’t you deserve to feel better? To be happy? Of course you do, so what are you waiting for? Aren’t you tired of waiting?
Problems do not survive in the present moment. They are never here Now. They are always in the future so why make them a part of your life NOW? Why allow one simple word to completely take you over, creating a false sense of who you are?
Whenever you are faced with what you consider to be a problem, change the word problem to the word opportunity….try it on for size and see how it feels. Instead of saying I have a problem, start saying I have an opportunity. Your co-worker is not a problem, he/she is an opportunity. Perhaps an opportunity to teach someone what you know. Your life is not full of problems, it is full of opportunities. The dis-ease you feel in your body is not a problem, it is an opportunity for you to relax and/or become more aware of what your body is trying to tell you.
Problem = Negative Energy
Opportunity = Positive Energy
As with any situation you can either deal with it now to get it out of the way, leave it alone if it is something out of your control, or just accept it as it is, as part of your journey. You are the one with the power to either allow it to escalate or subside. The choice is yours ~ problem or OPPORTUNITY?
Love & Light,
Cynthia K Ortiz, Inner Life Guidance Coach