Depression,  General,  Happiness,  Relationships

Letting Go of Emotional Pain

03The mind creates emotional pain through the thoughts it thinks.  These thoughts come from your resistance to “what is”.  The more intense your pain, the more you are resisting the present moment.  Never will you find emotional pain in the present moment.  In reality the pain you are suffering is just an illusion created by the mind.  However, because many of us allow our minds to control our emotions we live with this unnecessary pain.  This is the same as living outside your-self; outside the present moment.

You are and will always be the present moment, but you may not always be in tune with it.  The present moment is where your connection to your inner-being and to the Universe is.  It is where your power lies; the power to create a joyful life experience.  We are all One with the Universe.

When you go against life, resisting what is, you are living in the past or future.  Your mind is feeding off experiences that do not exist.  Let’s say for example your relationship ends.  The only way you are going to feel emotional pain from this experience is from thinking thoughts related to your now PAST relationship.  Essentially, you are going against what is.  You are going against what your life is right NOW.  You are not accepting your life as it is in this moment.  This of course creates the negative emotions you feel which in turn creates the pain.  Of course you may feel “sorrow” for this loss but it does not have to control your life.

Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hahn

The Dalai Lama’s Little Book of Inner Peace by the Dalai Lama

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Living in the present moment means to be in control of your mind.  Pay attention to what you are thinking and where those thoughts take you.  Look out for triggers that may send you leaping into the past or future.  The moment a negative emotion arises you know your mind is trying to take you out of the Now.  The easiest way to re-focus is to become aware of where you are right now.  Pull yourself back into your body so to speak, leaving the mind behind.  The more you empty your mind, the more peace, joy, well-being and love will become your experience.

Water Red HeartLetting go of what was or what could be for what is will free you completely.  It allows you to stay focused in the present moment releasing you from the bonds of any moment that is not this moment.  This in itself will relieve your emotional pain.

Love & Light,


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